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robby120
07-30-2009, 11:59 PM
My wife and I have been together for 5 years and married for 11 months.

She has a 28 year old son who bounces around from job-to-job and place-to-place. He's currently living out of state right now but wants to move back to where we live. Of course he's flat broke so we have to financially help him as is always the case.

We own our home but she wants to buy a fixer upper house to rent out to her son. Which in itself is OK. We have talked about getting into rental properties for some time and this would be a good way to get our feet wet. But today she suggested something so crazy that I'm still in shock. She proposed that we get a temporary divorce so she can take advantage of the $8,000.00 tax credit going on right now for first time home buyers. Then after she buys the home and we fix it up we can get re-married. Her credit rating is pretty bad so she feels this would help out. Needless to say I was floored by all this. Am I wrong to feel angry that her son and an $8K tax credit is worth more than our marriage? She swears it's just for the money and that we'd be better off to do this. I think otherwise. At the very least wouldn't the IRS figure it out as a sham and come after both of us? What's even more disconcerting is that she worked for the IRS for seven years. So she should know better than to try and pull a stunt like this.

I don't know how to handle this.... help!

eightball61
08-01-2009, 11:47 PM
Good to hear where our hard working tax dollars go to!!! See this is why we get screwed is because of people like her so no you are not wrong for feeling the way you do. You need to flat out tell her no. Heck now I see where her loser son gets its from. How do you know she just didn't marry you for support??? can't rule that out anymore...

Cloud
08-10-2009, 02:32 AM
Whoa! I'm floored by that suggestion as well. I think you have every right to be upset. Don't do it! At least not for the money. Is she really the person you thought she was? You have to be honest in realizing that her son will always be more important than you to her, but can she really demand that sacrifice from you? Sounds VERY risky. If you want your marriage to work out and help her son, you have to come up with a more realistic solution that doesn't involve cheating and dishonesty. Everything about her proposal seems very wrong.

Zany
08-14-2009, 06:28 AM
i want to ask some advice myself, where do i post a question. sorry, but just joined this forum

jidekanluv
08-14-2009, 10:38 PM
She is setting a trap, Watch it.

If you agreed to this(temporary divorce), there will always be one excuse or the other, or some reasons why you must not re-marry- like IRS come after you, and you wouldnt want to go behind "BARS"

smackie9
08-15-2009, 01:21 AM
Wow if you ever get caught by the IRS....Any ways your wife in an enabler. She has babied her son long enough. He is almost 30 years old and still hasn't progressed any in the adult world. She has to stop it right now. He is looking at her and you as a free meal ticket. What do you think is going to happen when you rent this house out to him? He ain't gonna be paying rent and you are stuck with an extra mortgage to pay. She will defend him, make excuses for him, etc. Time to grow some balls and say no to all of this nonsense.

eightball61
08-15-2009, 03:36 AM
i want to ask some advice myself, where do i post a question. sorry, but just joined this forum

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