need advice please help!

[schrumly]

Hi

I have been a widow for 6 years. After I lost my wife of 15 years, I got a tattoo on the back of my shoulder that says in loving memory with my wifes name on it. My fiance has a real problem with this. I really don't understand why it is such an issue and was just wondering what anybody else thought. Thanks for your help.

[Spaaron]

Have you asked her what the big problem is about the tattoo?? If so what has she said? She might feel insecure about it because that tattoo reminds you of your x wife and it shows how much love and dedication you have towards her by tattooing the name. She might feel as if you don't love her as much as you did with your x wife. I'm sure she understands why you tattooed it but then other then that if there is another issue, it's just complicated.

[eightball61]

Hey she met you when it was there. She accepted your marriage proposel with it there so itstime to deal with it.

[Howard]

I mean it's only a tattoo so what does she have to worry about?

[Cloud]

It's a part of your life that she is going to have to accept. You can't make your past disappear. Your life with your previous wife has made you who you are today. You should never forget her, and your new fiance has to realize that being second doesn't necessarily mean she is "second best". I think her disapproval is a sign of immaturity, but maybe if you talk it out she can overcome her insecurities.

[Howard]

nothing wrong with keeping a rememberance of someone from the past,she should understand what you're going through.

[MattHelm]

If I were you I would talk with your fiance about her insecurity. Ask why she is jealous of someone who has passed away.

Your fiance needs to realize that she is the one who chooses what the tattoo means to her. And she is choosing for that ink on your shoulder to mean something threatening and negative. Her choice, and I hope you can show her enough love to change her belief.

[jidekanluv]

"It's fuuny to be jealous of someone that is no more" - let her know that!

Your fiance, might be thinking, she may not have the influence your ex has on you, and you might not love her the way you did with your ex.

Talk with her and assure her your love, ask her what she wants maybe another tatoo of her:D

[jidekanluv]

"It's fuuny to be jealous of someone that is no more" - let her know that!

Your fiance, might be thinking, she may not have the influence your ex has on you, and you might not love her the way you did with your ex.

Talk with her and assure her your love, ask her what she wants maybe another tatoo of hers:D

[smackie9]

I can see her point...in her eyes she sees it as you not moving on, and that you have to hold homage of your past wife forever on your body. Tatoos are so personal, this is why it is never recommended to have a name tatooed on your body...it's forever. And to her she is reminded of it. If this woman is the love of your life, stop living in the past. Think about getting a design to cover over it. You have your memories to cherish your departed wife, you don't need the tatoo. As long as that tatoo is on you, your fiance will never feel completely yours.

[smackie9]

I think if you get something done to it, it would the most unselfish jestures of love that you could ever give her.

[Howard]

But the new girl shouldn't be jealous,if he wants to keep it,so be it.