How soon is too soon?

[Mags123]

Hey guys,

I was just wondering, how soon is it a good idea to get out there and start dating after a long term relationship has ended? Is it a good idea to casually date right away in order to have fun and get over the break up or do you think that prolongs the agony by distracting you from how you really feel?

Thanks for your great advice guys. You have helped me more than you know :)

Mags.

[eightball61]

You date when you feel you are ready. If you like to date dont use the guy as a rebound. If you still feel somewhat not ready then when you and the new partner have an open talk about past things let him know about the recent breakup and the pace you want to take things. For actually determining when you are ready all depends on you.

[MissCheivious]

Everyone should go at their own speed. Nothing is set in stone and there's no mathmatical equation that can tell you when to start dating. Too many times people jump right into a new relationship to get over thier old one. I say if you have to run to someone else to get over your ex, you're not ready. You're basically just using that other person and it's not fair. Take time to heal and try to learn what went wrong in your last relationship so it won't happen again. That's just my advice though.

[Rich]

As soon as your heart and loins are ready.

Don't worry about what anyone else has to say about either.