Some advice or your thoughts would be appreciated

[confuseddood]

I have been talking to/dating this girl for almost two months. We've talked on the phone almost everyday for the past month and a half. We hang out and we've been physically involved. About a week ago she left on springbreak with a bunch of her sorority sisters in Florida. She hasn't called me since she has left and a couple days ago I left her a message, but still haven't heard from her. My friends have got me worried because all their girls have called or left drunk messages for them, and they are all saying they are surprised she hasn't called and that they would be worried if she hadn't called. This is her last spring break since she will be graduating in December, so I can understand that she wants to have a good time since its her last one. I guess I like to over analyze things sometimes and like I said my friends have got me worried. So I was just wondering what some of you think about the situation and what you would do in this situation?

[eightball61]

Your friends may have heard from there partners because they are more envolved than you both are. Sure it be nice to have a phone call from her but she is down there doing whatever and enjoing what ever. You both are somewhat dating but dont have the official title. It is ok to worry and it shows you care but when she gets back maybe you may want to think about going further with your relationship.

Did you want more out of this friendship?

[smackie9]

The more you care, the more you worry and that's ok. Your relationship is not too serious though. I'm sure you want it to be, but you are going to have to wait, just a little bit. This a landmark time in her life. Let it go. When she comes back, start afresh towards a new future together. You would want her to do the same if you were in her shoes right? Like the saying goes, "If you love something let it go.......Best of luck and I'm sure she's ok. :)

[confuseddood]

Thanks for the responses. I was kind of thinking most of things that you all said, I guess I just like to worry, plus it's always nice to hear advice/thoughts from others. I definitely want to go further in the relationship, so I guess I'm just going to have wait and see where it goes when she gets back. Thanks again.

[eightball61]

Please keep us posted when she get back

[valueprep]

Your relationship with her is minimal at best but that does not discount your genuine, natural feelings you have towards her. However, when people are plunging towards or into a relationship their thought processes are seemingly skewed. They are always hoping for the best and not seeing the natural course of things.
It happens to the best of em!
You are no exception and being tangled is totally normal. BUT......you must take stock in the perspective aspect of this relationship. You are not totally committed, furthermore, she feels like she is not obligated however, you probably do feel she is and you are.
This is an issue you need to hammer out with her when she gets back and try not to consume yourself with it so much presently.
Do not judge her for her infractions in Fla., just proceed forward with the relationship as if nothing happened.....remember you are not committed!
She will feel more of a connection to you when you are understanding and in the future, she will feel that obligation.
Bottom line, stick it out and fight the good fight.....shes probably worth it if you feel this strongly about her.

Good Luck,
Brian Maloney,
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