My girlfriend isn't calling me back

[sdm5]

Hi everyone,

I've been having some issues lately with my girlfriend of 6 months. I'm new to the forums so bear with me a little if my story turns into a rant (I'll try my best not to let that happen lol)

So anyways my girlfriend and I go to school in San Diego and we're going to be college seniors in the fall. Ive been with my gf for about 6 months now and things have been...well it's been kind of a roller coaster. When we first started going out everything was really good (like all new relationships.) after about 2 months though I noticed that she started talking to this other guy who she met around the same time as me. this other guy doesn't go to our school, but she has kept in close contact with him ever since they met.

Now this has always bugged me a lot, and it still does, however near the beginning of our relationship i never really asked her about him. after a couple more months however, i noticed that they started "going out" on random little lunch dates and wouldn't tell me about it until after it happened. I finally asked her what was going on and she told me that she only saw him as a friend. she always left it at that; i even asked her if she found him attractive, or what she would do if he tried to kiss her, and she would always say "i don't know."

after we had a long discussion about our relationship, we decided that it would be a good idea to take a break from each other. she told me that maybe she wasn't ready for a relationship right now and that she was confused about where she was going in life. this break, however, only lasted for a week and she came back to me crying that she wanted to be together again. I took her back and things were good again for a while. however, last week she went on a short 3 day vacation with her cousins and hasn't called me back ever since. the first couple days she was with her cousins, she would text me everyday saying that she misses me. but ever since she went back home to northern california with her cousins after their trip ( I'm still in southern california) she hasn't responded or called back. I know that I shouldnt get too jumpy but she has never gone this long without calling me back or texting. what really worries me is that she always does this whenever she goes back home (spring break, xmas break, summer, etc.) I call her everyday at least once when we are far from each other but she never answers or calls back.

sorry for making this such a long post, but what do you think I should do about her not calling or texting when she goes back home to northern california?

[eightball61]

You own your own insecurities and with any partner you have to learn to fight the insecurities to trust your partner unless you have good reason not to....but then if thats the case then why be in the relationship, right? Here though, we can say for sure if she ever told you the full truth or not about this guy but what I can point out if that she did lie about the lunch dates as she never told you. When you're with someone it's called respect when you mention stuff like this and if it was no big deal then why not tell you, right?

As for her not calling anything could be up so I'd say be patient. You're feeling this way because of your insecurities. Again, if you keep feeling this way then stop investing time in non-happiness. You both do have an issue within this relationship with communication and if this relationship was to grow anymore into the future then you both need to work with each other on this.