He Can't Read

[Kayflex79]

I am have been with this guy for almost a year. And I just found out he can not read. He doesn't know that I know this but I want to help him. How do I bring it up to him without offending him or making him feel worthless. :confused:

[Rich]

Can you provide a little more info like, how old he is, did he go to school, how is eye sight is plus whatever else you can tell us about him.

I'll reserve comment until I hear more about your BF.

Thanks,

Rich

[Kayflex79]

I was told to provide more info. Well he is 29 yrs old. He has fine eyesight. He does have a highschool diploma. He has had jobs before usually not prolong periods of time. I think the most was like 7 months. I know I have never seen him write anything. I have never seen him read anything. When these things come up he changes the subject or avoids them completely.

[eightball61]

We all have different disabilities and talking to him may affend him some but next time you read aloud to him ask him if he can share some readings with you and you can help himout some. Let him knoww that you know and you dont think of him any less. Give him the option to learn and dont' force him. ITs going to be his choice.

[Rich]

IMO you can try to approach him and raise the subject. Who knows, maybe he has dyslexia and it wasn't diagnosed.

Or maybe it was diagnosed but nothing was done about it.

You have to ask yourself if you can be married to someone that can't read or write.

You can talk to him and say what you feel about him not being able to read (but cushion it as "having some difficulty") and that you don't think less of him for it, but that you'd like to work with him (if he wants) to over come it.

If he doesn't want to, then you need to ask yourself if that's what you want long term. If it isn't, then end it.

Rich