Question for women ??

[scionkid]

Why is it that if your haven't a argument with you man and he wants to leave the house to cool off. you stand in the door way and don't let him leave? Do you not understand most men don't like to argue with their women and just want time to cool off..

[eightball61]

Are you still having issues of her not telling the trueth and coming home late at night?

[PrincessB]

Some women take it personally when a man tries to walk away. Women are talkers and want to talk (or scream in some cases) it out and perceive a man walking away as running from the problem. Some people need time to cool off in order to think clearly and there is really nothing wrong with that at all. People just deal with conflict differently. Many men avoid confrontation while many women are perfectly comfortable with it LOL!

The break down in communication you're having is concerning and something that should be addressed at a neutral time outside of a conflict. At that time I would explain your need to clear your head at times and ensure her gently that its not an attempt to run from the conflict.

[Rhawn]

That's odd. When I get mad I am the one that walks away, or hangs up the phone. Oh he knows I'm mad when I hang up the phone.

[eightball61]

Some women take it personally when a man tries to walk away. Women are talkers and want to talk (or scream in some cases) it out and perceive a man walking away as running from the problem. Some people need time to cool off in order to think clearly and there is really nothing wrong with that at all. People just deal with conflict differently. Many men avoid confrontation while many women are perfectly comfortable with it LOL!

The break down in communication you're having is concerning and something that should be addressed at a neutral time outside of a conflict. At that time I would explain your need to clear your head at times and ensure her gently that its not an attempt to run from the conflict.

Well Said!!! :)

[scionkid]

I finally got her to talk to me some, It was in the car. I didn't get her really opening up to me. She just told me she doesn't talk out her problems because her parents didn't. Which that worries me more. She knows whats wrong but doesn't try to work on it. or doesn't appear to be trying.

When an argument is about to start between us, I try to talk it out. As soon as I say something she doesn't like or doesn't have an answer for. Once she startes yelling I toon her out.(maybe I'm wrong for doing that ). I don't like the sound of the human voice when its yelling in anger. So I just want to get away from it before I get upset and start yelling myself.

[smackie9]

Sometimes it's good to just let it all out and then go cool down. How can you resolve anything when fury is involved. You need a clear head to sort things out. But to avoid this kind of thing there needs to be constant communication, instead of holding it in and stewing over it. You also need trust......to trust the other person that they won't criticize you for speaking up about an issue. And respect...to respect the other persons opinion.

[csg09]

Well Said!!! :)

totally agree's .... that us women are.. :D