anyone else ever feel this way?

[HelphelpPLZ]

I find myself mad at girls i get involved with if they "hooked up" with other guys before they met me... be it .. or just kissing it bothers me to know that they have kissed other people. I myself have only kissed about 4 people before. I could of had more chances but i don't really care that much about hooking up or any of that dumb crap.. not to brag but i think i'm more mature then most of the my high school friends. I never got into the whole party/hook up thing and i don't really want to.

What i think is that i'm jealous that these girls have experianced something i havn't but why would i be jealous to experiance something i find stupid and dislike? If anyone can just tell me what the hell is going through my head it'd help. Like i'm trying to get into this relationship with this girl but she's givin me "the list" and everytime i see one of the kids i get mad at her and just want to make her feel like shit. so then we dont talk a few days cause its not fair to make her feel like shit when she didn't even do anything.

another thing that bothers me is all the kids she's kissed are ugly. and i'm no looker either. but it kind of bothers me she has a shitty taste in guys and she's interested in me.

I'm sorry to bother you with this but i have a hard time analyzing myself and my own feelings. i confuse myself thanks to whoever takaes the time ot read this.

[eightball61]

Like we said before but this is something we can't hold your hand and guide you through. Jealousy is a very powerful force and I too go through the same thing but I have come to realize that if I just dont accept the differences then I am going to be a lonely guy. My relationship almost went down the tube because of how my jealousy hit. The same thing will happen to you if you dont find a way to over power it. We all have past and are not perfect but if you can't except the fact that noone is perfect then you will be a lonely person through life. Through this process take a look at YOUR past first and see if you are perfect.

[HelphelpPLZ]

If you don't mind me asking how did you overpower your jealousy, and looking back on my past i have basicly been perfect. i've done nothign i regret or anything that hurtr anyone else.

Mind you i have to see these kids daily and it just throws fuel on the fire, usually on long breaks from school im in a good mood but once i see those kids i start thinking about stuff. or sometimes she'[ll say stuff that'll trigger it.

[aliciabryan2002]

as you may or may not have read my new thread, i'm having probs letting go what my b/f has done in the past as well, when we were separated. I've done similar things and we both have accepted it, but i having troubles forgetting what HE did. Just think about the kinda future you and your girl could have, then think that might all be at risk if you dont take control of your jealousy. That's what has helped me is knowing that my b/f and I have a wonderful future planned out, and as for the present, we're doin great! Just need to forgive 'n' forget and things will be as close to perfect as they can get.

[eightball61]

If you don't mind me asking how did you overpower your jealousy, and looking back on my past i have basicly been perfect. i've done nothign i regret or anything that hurtr anyone else.

Mind you i have to see these kids daily and it just throws fuel on the fire, usually on long breaks from school im in a good mood but once i see those kids i start thinking about stuff. or sometimes she'[ll say stuff that'll trigger it.


I didn't really find a way to get rid of my jeousy but me and my girlfriend worked together to help eachother out. We right journals of good and bad things that happen throughout the week. It actually helps us communicate more and affectively. On my personal level though I had to just put it all on the back burner. I am jealous when she goes out with friends or talks about other guys but I just let it go. You have to do the same thing even though it bothers you. If you can't let it go and you both continue to fight over it one of you will just give up. You both have to work together on this but most important you have to just bite your lip and let it all go....hope this helps some...Try seeing positive things around you rather than negative.