Rabdice
09-03-2009, 06:25 AM
Hey all i'm new here, and i came here to get some advice cuz the advice i've been getting lately is not helping me.
i apologize for the lenght but i don't want to leave important things out
okay, i'll try to kepp it short, my ex of about a year and a half broke up with me almost a year ago. and i took it hard basically begged and pleaded and it got me now where fast. i was defriended and blocked on facebook and blocked on aim. she basically wanted nothing from me we lived across the hall from each other at school so one can imagine how difficult it was. end of the semester came and i decided i was gonna get my act together. so i did just that
got back second semester and i focused only on me, i made zero attempts to talk to her or see in her anyway, dated a few people and pretty much just had fun with my friends and suitemates. if me and her ever spoke at all it was initiated by her not me. so, eventually i was unbocked from both aim and facebook, but i did nothing about it. she tried to talk to me once by coming over to give me something back, i know this bc a friend told me she wanted to talk again, so when she came over i took the movie and just went back to what i was doing and didn't pay any attention to her.
ok, so toward the end of the semester, i was about to graduate by the way, she came in to talk to me, and asked me if i was over what had happened, and i said yes, in a way that said, "are you kidding, really." ok after that she knew i had smoked with two of her suitenates and then she practically insisted that me and her go smoke together cause we had never done it before, i turned her down many times during that convo, and that was the second time she had asked me, me saying no both times.
ok, shcool ends i graduate and she shows up the day of at my dorm to say congrats and bye, but my folks were there so we couldn't really talk. now for me at that time i figured i would never talk to her again or see her. about a week later she IMed me, but i only got it when i got back from a small vacation. whatever, spoke briefly nothing heavy. a month later she friends me on facebook. took a week, accepted it, and then from there we have spoken on aim (i sent her an IM after going 7 months of no initiation whatsoever), facebook several times and twice through text messaging (both times the texting came from me). every convo has been light, fun, lots of laughter, poking fun, and maybe mild flirting and this has been going on since mid July. saw her once at a party and we didn't really talk much.
so, the other day when we texted back and forth from about 10:30pm-12:30am, i know she had been wanting to see me with my new short haircut. so i finally showed her a pic and told her i'd only let her see if she did me a favor in return. and she said ok. so i showed her the pic, she said it didn't look bad, and i replied then after that the convo stopped, and we never discussed my end of the bargain (which was gonna be to smoke with her finally)
now i do not know what to do, bc i have initiated the past 3 times, and i feel like if i initiate again it will be too mcuh and too soon. i know i'm going to see her next weekend at our friends birthday party, and i don't want it to be awkward. and yes i do still wish to be with her but i do not want to force it.
agai sorry for the lenght, i just really need help here? thanks i appreciate it
i apologize for the lenght but i don't want to leave important things out
okay, i'll try to kepp it short, my ex of about a year and a half broke up with me almost a year ago. and i took it hard basically begged and pleaded and it got me now where fast. i was defriended and blocked on facebook and blocked on aim. she basically wanted nothing from me we lived across the hall from each other at school so one can imagine how difficult it was. end of the semester came and i decided i was gonna get my act together. so i did just that
got back second semester and i focused only on me, i made zero attempts to talk to her or see in her anyway, dated a few people and pretty much just had fun with my friends and suitemates. if me and her ever spoke at all it was initiated by her not me. so, eventually i was unbocked from both aim and facebook, but i did nothing about it. she tried to talk to me once by coming over to give me something back, i know this bc a friend told me she wanted to talk again, so when she came over i took the movie and just went back to what i was doing and didn't pay any attention to her.
ok, so toward the end of the semester, i was about to graduate by the way, she came in to talk to me, and asked me if i was over what had happened, and i said yes, in a way that said, "are you kidding, really." ok after that she knew i had smoked with two of her suitenates and then she practically insisted that me and her go smoke together cause we had never done it before, i turned her down many times during that convo, and that was the second time she had asked me, me saying no both times.
ok, shcool ends i graduate and she shows up the day of at my dorm to say congrats and bye, but my folks were there so we couldn't really talk. now for me at that time i figured i would never talk to her again or see her. about a week later she IMed me, but i only got it when i got back from a small vacation. whatever, spoke briefly nothing heavy. a month later she friends me on facebook. took a week, accepted it, and then from there we have spoken on aim (i sent her an IM after going 7 months of no initiation whatsoever), facebook several times and twice through text messaging (both times the texting came from me). every convo has been light, fun, lots of laughter, poking fun, and maybe mild flirting and this has been going on since mid July. saw her once at a party and we didn't really talk much.
so, the other day when we texted back and forth from about 10:30pm-12:30am, i know she had been wanting to see me with my new short haircut. so i finally showed her a pic and told her i'd only let her see if she did me a favor in return. and she said ok. so i showed her the pic, she said it didn't look bad, and i replied then after that the convo stopped, and we never discussed my end of the bargain (which was gonna be to smoke with her finally)
now i do not know what to do, bc i have initiated the past 3 times, and i feel like if i initiate again it will be too mcuh and too soon. i know i'm going to see her next weekend at our friends birthday party, and i don't want it to be awkward. and yes i do still wish to be with her but i do not want to force it.
agai sorry for the lenght, i just really need help here? thanks i appreciate it