Help.

[Sw33tCandykiss]

Hey guys,

Im Gabby. I was just searching the web and this site popped up and I figured I would give it a try. Im a 16 year old girl and my boyfriend of 11 months just broke up with me last Saturday night. We have been fighting a lot over the last 2 months, mostly because of our chaotic schedules ( He plays baseball, Im on the track team.) Plus Im not sure if ya'll have heard of accutane but its a REALLY strong drug for acne, which Im on, that has a lot of side effects, including mood swings ( Poor guy, as if the whole period issue every month isn't enough for him.) All of the stress got to him and it freaked him out. I hate it that we are over because I love him so much. I practically begged him to give me another chance to fix things and make them better and he wouldnt let me. I know he loves me to y'all, I do. I see him at school and I can see the pain in his eyes when he looks at me just like he can see mine. It's so hard for me to move on. I want to be with him but its like he doesnt want to be with me. This might sound horrible but Im hoping when baseball ends he will realize what he has done and regret it. I even told him I made mistakes and how sorry I was. I know I have faults, believe me, I have tons. I just dont understand. Part of me believes, If he loved me and wanted to be with me, He would want to work together to fix this...

I dont know what to do. Ive tried talking to him, Not as his girlfriend, but as his friend and he hardly talks to me, let alone looks at me.

Im seriously not trying to be a stalker. Im just trying to just be a part of his life

Ugh, I need some serious help before I go completely insane!

[tarantula]

hi gabby...

don't be freak. you've tried ur best. i don't think that it is a good idea to stalk with him with this reason. I think he dosen't want to keep relation with u. each time u go to him about this, u make him bother.
It's my advise that u should give him up. bcoz u'v tried lot, but it didn't work. Just get back to the normal life, do your study, make new friends, watch movie, read books, listen to songs ....whatever u want to... just forget about what'v happened. Just keep in mind that u'v a personality and u have to keep it. who dosen't want to stay beside u anymore, why should u waste ur time to think about him????!!
If he does think about u then he must tried to fix all stuffs.. but he didn't.

So, please .. listen to me and get back to your normal life. look around, he is not the only one.. maybe something better is waiting for u. thts why u'v broked up.

trust me. i am thinking about u and ur life. u r now only 19. long way is left to go. so dn't waste ur time. think about urself now. only this can help u.

bye

tarantula...

[eightball61]

Time is all you can giv in a case like this. You both see there is a problem and him taking time away to think and have things cool off is what he thinks is a good choice. You both been dating for a while now and not having him around is something you havn't adjusted to yet. Its hard to get someone like this to talk and thats why you will have to just be patient and see where things go.

Don't push him to talk because you may push him away. You allready tried so now give it a few days rest. After the few days then maybe write him a note or email and see what he responds. Explain that you want to talk just as friends and work on the potential relationship after. You both have things to work out here and only giving it time will help.

Its tough losing a first love and thats why you dont want to give up. You both have opposites schedules and you are going through moods with the medication. In that note explain again the effects that medication gives you and also explain how you feel but you dont want to hold him back to activities. He may be busy but is only young once and he wants to continue his activities. Compromise more by maybe going to more or his games or meets. He may be playing but you are still there to see him and root him on.