How do you feel about Match.com

[INLOVEWITHHIM]

Hi again guys!! I will once again give you the Readers Digest version... my boyfriend is Military adn will be MIA for 45 days... no contact with him at all... I had a run in with one of his exes that lives very far away-- but she gave me this story that they were great friends blah, blah blah... but, he had not told her that I lived with him now ( I moved from Texas about 4 months after he did, and I have only been here 3 weeks!) That all kind of freaked me out... but, I wrote it off as nothing to worry about right now. (there is a post on this site about it) So.. then I was going through his e-mail (wrong I know-- he should not have left it open:) ) and he ws registered on match.com and had a whole profile with pictures-- now he did not pay for the membership-- so he can't e-mail people back.. but, on the profile, he said he was single... and he created it before I moved up here with him... there has not been a lot of activity on the account-- but he still did it! On top of that, he also registered to classmates.com and said he was single there too--- he is one of those up-my ass all of the time guys and I don't feel he would ever cheat... we are even talking about marriage, looking at rings etc.-- and I sacrificed a lot to move here... I know I am freaking out mostly because I can't talk to him, but, should I worry??? Are sites like that innocent-- compiled on a "friend" of his not knowing I had moved... also--- he has another e-mail that he did not leave logged on-- I figured out how to tap into it, but I have to change his password... it would be wrong, but might give me some answeres... but, if he has done nothing wrong at all-- then I am in big trouble for getting into and changing his password... and now... I am rambling... I am SOOO SORRY!!! I would love any advice!!! Thanks guys!! :confused:

[AlexCrystal]

Were you both committed to one another when he created the profile on match.com? If so, I'd worry....creating a profile on a dating service website when you have a girlfriend who you claim you love is wrong....no two ways about it.
If he created it before you two started dating...then the next question is...when is the last time he visited the site? Has it been during the time you've been together? All questions you may want to think about.
I would not rush into marriage with this guy....you just have too many concerns about him....even if they are all innocent...for some reason, your gut feeling is questioning him (I read your other thread). As far as tapping into that other email....tough call....not right...but I know it has to be tempting....I honestly don't know what to tell you about doing that or not. (I probably would if I had questions about him...and I know it's wrong to invade someone's privacy and I wouldn't want my boyfriend to do it to me...)
Good luck, keep us posted on what happens or what you find out...

[INLOVEWITHHIM]

Yes... he did create it when we were together... he may have done it before I got here... but that does not make it right.. the only reason I know he did it afterwards is that he put his area that he lives in... as where we live now... I would love to tell you guys his "name" but, I am afraid everyone would call me a stupid idiot... it's pretty bad... I swear I never thought he was a cheater!!!

[eightball61]

The more you post about this guy the more my mind changes about him. What you did was wrong but you did find out about his lies. Now, this could be something old and what he did a while back but I am sure under his ccount if you have the password you can check the registration date and maybe last date accessed. If these dates match up to when you both been dating then end the relationship. But if it doesn't match up and was before then talk to him about it when he comes back. It bothers you and thats why you need to stop playing detective till he gets back.