Diarys

[bdtraders]

HI ALL

Just curious, eightball has helped me alot on here, and i thank him for that and i thank you all for being a place where i can turn to when my mind and life seems so far gone.
I recently have started keeping a daily diary on my laptop of my feelings and daily events that seem important. Eightball suggested to me to do this as a type of therapy and it does help to let things out about me and my life and hurts.
My question is does anyone else do this and do they share it with their SO or keep it to themselves. If you do share it, are you 100% honest in it? and what is your partners response to reading your daily thoughts.

Just curious

[eightball61]

I hope I am allowed to add to this one :p

I am sure it may work for some while other it doesn't. I started this up with my girlfriend because we both had communication problems and insecurity problems. We still have these problems today but the journals did help a great deal on communication, expressing myself, and working with my partner better.

Me and my GF did this for a while and things worked out fine. We would write entries in it every week. Week can write as many as we want or one big one. At the end of the week we trade journals to read them and after that we discuss anything that needs to be straightened out. Now, I wonder to myself why can't we just talk about this but its hard to communicate with her sometimes. I have found a way where she will be able to come out and express about how she feels.

Recently, we started up again and last night was the first reading. Afterwards, we had our discussion and thing went well. I mentioned to her that the journals have worked weel for us. We have never gotten into a fight while doing the journals. They have a been such a huge asset to our relationship. She did agree to start back up again durning one of our last fights. She knows I can't change that she doesn't like to talk to me but she is just scared because she has never had someone that has cared for her like I do. Now, I can accept that she has a communication problem but we needed to do soemthing. Holding in anger and never accomplishing anything never help anything and just made everything worse.

So far though things have been going well since the last fight and the journals worked out wonders for me last night in getting out what needed to be said. I hope we continue this progress and I hope bdtraders it continues to work for you. As I said it works for some but others it doesn't. I just figured you justhave to be open and excepting to the idea to make it work.

[Rich]

I never necessarily did a diary myself. But one would have to ask, why do one if you're not going to be totally honest?

My view is to do whatever it takes to help you cope and deal. Like diaries and stuff, but not drugs or alcohol. :-)

Rich