please help!!!!

[endoftheworld]

Hey,
Just wondering if anyone can help me on this seemingly hopeless time for me, 18 months ago I slept with my best friend while he was with a girlfriend, after we both agreed it was a big mistake and it shouldn’t of happened. Then a couple of months later he broke up with his girlfriend, but we stayed friends, then we slept together again and our friendship seemed to be ruined, then one night we sorted everything out and he told me he didn’t have feelings like that for me and I told him I didn’t know what I felt for him, but we were ok after that. Since then though we hardly talk he doesn’t seem to want me as even a friend anymore, but still stuff keeps happening with us, not necessarily , but kissing etc, although at the weekend we slept together again and I think I told him I loved him, which I think I do, but I have no idea what to do any help much appreciated especially from the male perspective!!!
Thanx!!!!

[eightball61]

then one night we sorted everything out and he told me he didn’t have feelings like that for me and I told him I didn’t know what I felt for him, but we were ok after that. Since then though we hardly talk he doesn’t seem to want me as even a friend anymore, but still stuff keeps happening with us, not necessarily , but kissing etc, !



Many friendships get ruined this way. The problem is you probably care more than he cares for you. He is with you and doing all these things because he knows he can get it. If you wanted to keep the relationship as a friendship then you can stop having . Having with him maybe the only thing keeping him around. You need to let him know what you want to change and gain back out of the friendship. If he bails the friendship then you know he was after you just for .

What you both did while he was in the relationship was wrong but now over and done with. You both have continued these activities and all friendships attempts have failed after many tries. To me it shows a picture that he may have just stuck around for the . I pointed out this qoute because this is why I see things the way I do. He had that last talk with you but nothing change except for the kissing and being cute. You did have though this past weekend.

As I said your feeling for him are deeper than you think. You are giving yourself up hoping more will come out of it. Its your best interest to hold off the and tell him what you feel. Its either a relationship or friendship. By letting him have you are allowing him to use you for that. You need to make the final stand and keep to it......Friendship or relationship? (In this case I would just choose friendship)

[CalistaClap]

He has point blank told you that he doesn't have "that kind" of feelings for you. Believe him.

He knows that he can still have with you without any type of committment. There aren't too many male species out there that would turn that down.

If you have such feeling for him, you need to stop this. Either you are together as a couple, or you aren't. It can't be inbetween like it is now, or it will just keep messing with your mind.