Confused whether i should stay or walk away?

[Painfullyinlove]

I have posted on here before and told my story. Well after i did that things started to get better for my girlfriend and I. We took a trip to Florida and came back and everything went bad again. We broke up last night because she is still confused between myself and her x-boyfriend. I know that the problem is that she cant bring herself to let go of the other person but that is unfair to me. We have broken up 3 times now because of this and she always comes back to me. She says that she needs space and i try to give it to her but she continues to call me. I am confused. Should I just give up and walk away or should i give her her space and be there for her when she needs me? Any advice please!

[eightball61]

Your question is the same as before and you didn't listen last time. How many times will it take for a breakup to happen before you realize the relality of this?

You both started way to early into a relationship. You both needed space but that was never given. She went to you thinking things maybe better but she never got over the breakup of her ex. So now she still has feelings for him and you. There is no point in dating her as my view. Its ok to keep ONLY a friendship but she needs to have time and space.

If she was to come back to you latter on then great but if she doesn't then it wan't meant to be. Its only fair to you and her if her heart is only denicated to one person. Right now you want someone that you can't have. You can't change her mind for her. She can only do that by sorting out things. This is not what you may have wanted to hear but you asked what to do once again and we will tell you once again the truth.

[Painfullyinlove]

Eightball i appreciate your adivce and i do realize that i didn't listen before. So i am listening now and i am giving her her space. The only question that i have is rather i should wait on her to figure this out or if i should move on. I mean i have no desire to be with another girl right now so that is not what i mean by move on. What i mean is should i just take all the feelings that i have for her and toss them aside or should i hang on to those and hope that they will be of good use one day. Also what should i do if she continues to call me. I dont want to be mean to her but at the same time she calls me and i know that that is not helping out her situation any. Thanks for the help.

[eightball61]

hmmm should you wait or stay????

Well it can be a no win situation because it really depends on her and what she will want in the future. If you wait it out sometime and she doesn't go back to you and you get hurt. If you do move on and enjoy single time for a while and she does decide to come back then you win. If she doesn't come back then while you are out enjoying single life you can be open to new options such as girls.

My opinion is wait if you like to for a little while. Don't waste your time though. If you see nothing happening then just move on. Right now though this is something you have to take. There is no need to date her again and have a breakup happen. Explain to her the space you want to give her and what may happen if you both get back together or not. Leave your door open for her but also allow new people to come into your life also. There is no point in waiting for someone that is not ready. Life is too short to wait...

[Rich]

The reality of the situation is that your GF has strong feelings for another that outweigh her feelings for you. That's the reality.

If that wasn't true, then she'd have no problems dropping him for you. IMO if that guy wanted to rekindle things with your gf, she's go in a heart beat.

So, what can you do?

IMO, if you're looking for marriage to this girl, then break up with her because what you have isn't strong enough.

If you're not looking for marriage, then stay with her, get all the you can and look for someone else while you're doing it. And then when you find someone else, drop her.

Rich