twixie
09-14-2009, 11:10 AM
Ok so I got some really good advice on another post about falling in love again..thanks everyone...but here's my new question.
Small background: we were together a year, Im in my mid 30's and have been in relationships before but never in love so he was officially my first love. I can honestly say I think we had a perfect relationship, never fought, loved spending time together but not in an overbearing way. he works away during the week so our times have always been on the weekends. we decided we would talk about moving in together when my rental lease came due but that didnt happen because he split up with me a couple of months before it came up. We have been split up for two months and trying to remain friends but I have been a mess. crying everyday...facebook stalking (lol, yes I will admit it)...sending the desperate take me back emails and within the last two weeks just trying to move on but its damn hard. he started dating a girl from the town where he works during the week and I know they are sleeping together because of her posts to him - I have since stopped looking at his FB page (well mostly). He still looks at mine tho because he sent me an IM about a post I had. He says Im the best woman he's ever been with, when we broke up he said it was because he didnt love me enough and he was afraid if we stayed together in 2 yrs if he still felt that way it would be harder to end things for both of us.
So he sends me this IM last night that says he still cares for me, that I can come and visit anytime (because we have a ton of mutual friends that live by him) because everyone over at his place misses me. I know they give him hell for breaking up with me all the time. I told him I am scared to see him because I still miss him and he said that he is scared to see me too because I am the best girl he has ever been with...ever and he misses me too. I checked out his FB page and no posts from the other one in over a week. I have gone out on a few dates, he knows this and knows I was on one Saturday night cause the mutual friends told him. Just so you know...dating sucks! lol
I want this man back....no doubts in my mind. He is my true love, I have never been more happy than I was when we were together. So how do I get him back? Do I continue to go out on dates and maybe make him secretly aware to try and make him jealous so he decides he wants me back....do I just show up where he is next weekend and see where things go. I could just see me walking up to him and planting a great kiss on him :) or do I do what Ive been doing sit back and just wait to see where it goes from here?
How can I not fight for the most important thing ever in my life????
Small background: we were together a year, Im in my mid 30's and have been in relationships before but never in love so he was officially my first love. I can honestly say I think we had a perfect relationship, never fought, loved spending time together but not in an overbearing way. he works away during the week so our times have always been on the weekends. we decided we would talk about moving in together when my rental lease came due but that didnt happen because he split up with me a couple of months before it came up. We have been split up for two months and trying to remain friends but I have been a mess. crying everyday...facebook stalking (lol, yes I will admit it)...sending the desperate take me back emails and within the last two weeks just trying to move on but its damn hard. he started dating a girl from the town where he works during the week and I know they are sleeping together because of her posts to him - I have since stopped looking at his FB page (well mostly). He still looks at mine tho because he sent me an IM about a post I had. He says Im the best woman he's ever been with, when we broke up he said it was because he didnt love me enough and he was afraid if we stayed together in 2 yrs if he still felt that way it would be harder to end things for both of us.
So he sends me this IM last night that says he still cares for me, that I can come and visit anytime (because we have a ton of mutual friends that live by him) because everyone over at his place misses me. I know they give him hell for breaking up with me all the time. I told him I am scared to see him because I still miss him and he said that he is scared to see me too because I am the best girl he has ever been with...ever and he misses me too. I checked out his FB page and no posts from the other one in over a week. I have gone out on a few dates, he knows this and knows I was on one Saturday night cause the mutual friends told him. Just so you know...dating sucks! lol
I want this man back....no doubts in my mind. He is my true love, I have never been more happy than I was when we were together. So how do I get him back? Do I continue to go out on dates and maybe make him secretly aware to try and make him jealous so he decides he wants me back....do I just show up where he is next weekend and see where things go. I could just see me walking up to him and planting a great kiss on him :) or do I do what Ive been doing sit back and just wait to see where it goes from here?
How can I not fight for the most important thing ever in my life????