hes distant and im lost..HELP

[nickole09]

My boyfriend and I who have been together for almost 4 yrs have agreed to work all the problems out and start over. We have been fine and perfect for the past 2 months. All of a sudden he has no desire to be around me. The only time I have with him is when were going to bed. He wakes up and goes out with his friends and gets in around 3am and even later. His excuse is we spend too much time together..we need to have time to ourselves



What do I do???
Am I wrong for making accusations?

[eightball61]

Without knowing all the details, it's ok to point out the reality of the situation. Sure he should have friend time but at 3 am? Really what is going on???

I'm afraid to say but you may be hitting your head on a dead wall. You both gave it a second go and now it's back to where it all started. How many times are you both going to talk about getting things back on track when they just go back to this?

[Rich]

It's ok to have friends and to go out periodically, but a couple should be friends to each other and want to spend time together. If the thought of that is boring or uninspiring, then the prospect for a happy, loving and long lasting relationship is dim at best.

Why settle for that? Either make it exciting to be with each other, or move on. You're not husband and wife so it's easy to call it a day and move on.

[Howard]

You could always try to talk to him as to why you both aren't spending enough time with each other.

[nickole09]

I have tried talking to him..all he says is I'm just spending time with my friends. I am doing nothing wrong and I have spent every day all day with you for a month. I need time to myself.

[Howard]

I have tried talking to him..all he says is I'm just spending time with my friends. I am doing nothing wrong and I have spent every day all day with you for a month. I need time to myself.




I mean he should spend time with you but if he's just spending time with friends and not doing anything wrong,you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

[justme1981]

My boyfriend and I who have been together for almost 4 yrs have agreed to work all the problems out and start over. We have been fine and perfect for the past 2 months. All of a sudden he has no desire to be around me. The only time I have with him is when were going to bed. He wakes up and goes out with his friends and gets in around 3am and even later. His excuse is we spend too much time together..we need to have time to ourselves



What do I do???
Am I wrong for making accusations?



if I was you I would ask him which is more important being with his friends all the dang time or being with you.I am much like you myself you stay for the sake of not being alone we both know the answer to that problem the only thing is we cant seem to make our heart go along with it