scubagirl72
09-21-2009, 08:26 PM
We started off as coworkers and over the past two years it has turned into a great friendship. He is in a fulfilling relationship and so am I.
I really do consider him one of my best friends and we tell each other everything. It always seemed 'safe' because we are both romantically involved with other people. He is like the brother I never had.
He is so kind and thoughtful, would share his lunch with me when he knew I was too busy to get or prepare my own... surprised me by changing my car's burnt out breaklight for me... would loan me CD's that he knew I would like... always very sweet. He is just that type of guy.
I will admit that from the first time I met him I felt a 'spark'... like he was a kindred spirit. But I am also mature enough to know that a 'spark' can be a dangerous thing, especially when we are both involved in long term relationships.
I used to tease him about having a huge crush on him and the humour actually eased the ual tension I was feeling. Although when I was in close proximity to him I would feel it again.
We had spoken about our relationship and he was very honest and said that he'd thought about going further with it but that it wasn't worth risking what we both already had and I agreed 100% with him.
When we stopped working together I thought that I would slowly lose touch with him, but we have kept in contact and hang out fairly often. We have been very open with our partners and they are fully aware of our friendship.
Now... here's the problem, we went out the other night, just the two of us, not an uncommon thing. But, I had quite a bit more to drink than I normally would. I'll admit that my memory of things is a little foggy but I do know that we kissed in a more than 'friendly' way.
I'm afraid that we may have destroyed the platonic friendship we had and I just hope that we can get passed this and go back to what we had before. I do love him dearly and would hate to not have him be a part of my life.
I spoke to him the next day and we agreed that it was better to not ever say anything to our partners about it and that we will never, ever let anything like that happen again. It would just open up an enormous, ugly can of worms.
I really do consider him one of my best friends and we tell each other everything. It always seemed 'safe' because we are both romantically involved with other people. He is like the brother I never had.
He is so kind and thoughtful, would share his lunch with me when he knew I was too busy to get or prepare my own... surprised me by changing my car's burnt out breaklight for me... would loan me CD's that he knew I would like... always very sweet. He is just that type of guy.
I will admit that from the first time I met him I felt a 'spark'... like he was a kindred spirit. But I am also mature enough to know that a 'spark' can be a dangerous thing, especially when we are both involved in long term relationships.
I used to tease him about having a huge crush on him and the humour actually eased the ual tension I was feeling. Although when I was in close proximity to him I would feel it again.
We had spoken about our relationship and he was very honest and said that he'd thought about going further with it but that it wasn't worth risking what we both already had and I agreed 100% with him.
When we stopped working together I thought that I would slowly lose touch with him, but we have kept in contact and hang out fairly often. We have been very open with our partners and they are fully aware of our friendship.
Now... here's the problem, we went out the other night, just the two of us, not an uncommon thing. But, I had quite a bit more to drink than I normally would. I'll admit that my memory of things is a little foggy but I do know that we kissed in a more than 'friendly' way.
I'm afraid that we may have destroyed the platonic friendship we had and I just hope that we can get passed this and go back to what we had before. I do love him dearly and would hate to not have him be a part of my life.
I spoke to him the next day and we agreed that it was better to not ever say anything to our partners about it and that we will never, ever let anything like that happen again. It would just open up an enormous, ugly can of worms.