First time Post. PLZ HELP MEEEEE.

[guhbuhjuh]

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting here, I'm sort of in a complicated situation. Anyway, I have been recently involved with someone I've known for 4 years, me and her were best friends and for about a monht and a half we had a romantic relationship (this just ended about a month ago). I am in love with her, and she told me the same. The complication here is that she told me she had broken up with her bf, but in reality she had not. She was very distant with him and felt nothing for him anymore as he treated her like SHIT, but when she tried to break up with him he broke down, cried and threatened to kill himself. So she wanted to let him go slowly because she didn't want him to do anyhting drastic to himself. Now I only found this out recently, when she told me that what me and her did was wrong and that she couldn't be with me in a relationship anymore, and that she just wanted to be friends, because even though he was an asshole she's been with him for 3 yrs and he never cheated on her. Now, the way I look at it, she had a right to be happy, and she did want to break up with him and he wouldnt let her go, that is not her problem.

Me and her discussed getting married, our future, our kids everything. Both of us had feelings for each other for over 2 yrs but becaue of her bf, and me being friends with her bf back then we never did anything. WHen me and her are together its GREAT, we get along beatifully, talk from 11pm to 5 am in the morning. I know I can have a future with her. OK NOW lol.... she has been avoiding talking to me for about 2 weeks ever since she came back from vacation. I don't think that is fair to me at all, and I am hurt and angry at the same time. I think she is confused as to what to do, and is being distant and cold, should I give her some time? or what?? Anyone been in a situation like this? What to do??? Someone help, I would really appreciate any insight. Thanks in advance.

[Vanya]

If this girl felt the way she says about you she would be with you know. There are very few women that would stay in a relationship out of guilt if they were in love with someone else. The best thing you can do for yourself is let it go. SEe other people. Don't put your life on hold. If she really loves you she will figure out how to be with you. Just don't hold your breathe. There is no reason for you to sit around and wait.

[buster]

Honor her wishes, if she just wants to be friends, be grateful that you are not losing her all together, if it is meant to be.....it will be. good luck!