so confused...

[pharm4u]

First of all, i'd like to thank "eightball61" & Rich for your advice...

I'm not sure what I'm going to write in my letter, just wondering if someone would be able to tell me or at least guide me...please??

It will be one year in May since we have broken up and we last spoke around the middle of June/04, just wondering what he weill think if I contact him by email or by letter, etc...I last heard that he was seeing a woman whom he had dated a few years ago, but she is not Jewish and I know that he want's to marry a Jewish girl. Now that I'm legally divorced and I was born Jewish, I believe if he would just give me another chance, I am positive that the realtionship would work out, since I have no more obstacles to pass, I am going crazy just thinking about the whole thing, what do you think?? I know that I should follow what my heart is telling me, but, I also know that everyone has a certain fear...I guess that fear is rejection and I admit that I am afraid of being rejected, it's only human...Hope you can advise me further...Thanks again...pharm4u :confused:

[eightball61]

Rich is better than I when it comes time to help in writing stuff for someone so if he sees this post I will leave it to him. My advice though is to expressed everything that you have on your mind into a rough draft then put it all together in a final shorter draft.

[Rich]

Oh my God, Eightball, the pressure! lol

Don't sell yourself short, you do just fine.

Pharm4U, don't feel any pressure in writing this letter. Just express your feelings in an adult and honest manner. There's nothing better or more heartfelt then seeing someone's true inner self and knowing that someone has opened themselves up and put their trust in you that you won't hurt them. It's an honor, actually, and if you feel that this guy is worth doing this for, then he should see it as such. If he does something negative with your letter, then he's not the type to have a long relationship with anyway. So, better to know what's what and answer your unknowingness.

In the letter, just express what you've been feeling over the past few months. Explain what you see in the other person and what you like. Talk of the obstacles and what you have gone through and what might have caused the conflicts in the past. Explain that all those issues have been passed.

Talk of maybe being regretful for not being able to be yourself when you were together last, but now those issues have been resolved.

Talk of what you see that both of you can have and of taking chances. That you're taking a chance now by writing this letter and that you want no regrets in this life. Explain that there's no pressure either way but that you wanted and needed to do this. That he's worth the chance.

Just be honest and don't make far fetched promises. Make your goals logical and obtainable. Talk of this world and reality, not of a fairy tale vision.

I wouldn't talk of this new girl that he's seeing or the religious angle that you mentioned. Afterall, you want him to be with you for you, not some religious belief. Do you want him to love you for you or for your religious beliefs?

As for the rejection. What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. Rejection is a part of life. Life isn't all good or all yeses. Actually, you wouldn't know and experience joy, if you did not experience pain, right?

By knowing and feeling rejection, you can now totally experience love and the true feelings behind it. When you find it, you will cherish and treasure it because you know the other side of the coin. At least you should anyway.

Does a rich man appreciate his wealth if he never has experienced being without money and all the pressures and discomfort that goes along without having? I don't think so.

So, don't be afraid of rejection. It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal. You wouldn't be the first person to be rejected and you won't be the last.

Good luck,

Rich
www.awesomerelationships.com

[eightball61]

Oh my God, Eightball, the pressure! lol




The pressure is off now...lol Your thoughts were better than I could have put it but it all boils down to expressing how you feel in the letter and what you want...good post Rich. :D