holyGOAT
10-15-2009, 01:52 AM
Well im stuck. Its been a over a year and a half since my soon to be ex wife decided she wanted to get a divorce. I did everything underneath the sun to screw up our relationship. You know how they say dont do this this and that at the begining of the break up? Yeah i did pretty much all of that. I sent texts to her long after she told me she wanted the divorce trying to convince her im different, im a better person etc.... I tried driving 3 hours to see her and surprise her but that blew up in my face. She lives 3 hours out of town because she is in the military now. In fact she deploys to Iraq in less than a month. Around february i got fed up with what she was doing and so i started yelling at her and telling her her faults for the past year. Since then i havent really kept any open communication with her although if i wanted to i can easily begin talking to her as a friend. I dont want to be her friend. Knowing another person is dating her tears me up. i never wanted to share her ever. I have been told not to talk to her as if i care or not to show i care anymore. I have been told to let the divorce happen which if we wanted to stop it now its far too late. Im just supposed to wait. ive been waiting for half a year and i think ive waited long enough. What can I possibly do to show her i still love her, but i dont need her, and something that can get a fast reaction, but strong? I had thought a well thought out letter, but then i dont want to jeapordize what im going after in the divorce. I know that sounds funny but i have my reasons.