Should you tell someone their spouse is cheating on them????

[totellornot]

I sit by a guy at work that is cheating on his wife. He talks to the other woman all the time at work. You may ask - am I sure it isn't his wife he is talking to all the time? Well today he was asking the "other" woman what she was wearing when he got another call and put the "other" woman on hold. His wife was calling to talk about the kids. He talked to her for a bit then got back on the phone with the "other" woman and told her what his wife called about and then asked her if she was in bed and started to moan. Mind you this is at work!!!! So the "other" woman knows about his wife and kids. The thing that makes me sick is the way he talks to his wife when she calls, he is always telling us how dumb she is when he gets off the phone with her. :mad: They have 3 kids together and this poor woman has no idea. Should I let the wife know the next time they make plans to be together? :confused:

[CalistaClap]

.........what a a$$hole!

Your right, she does deserve to know. I would feel the same way you do right now. Although I do think I would probably tell her (because I would want someone to tell me), I don't think that you should do it in a way that anyone will know it was you that told.
That may cause ALOT of tension at work.

I dunno what to suggest, annonomous phone call, a letter, tell someone you know will tell her?

It's a tough situation. I know alot of people will say "it's not your business, stay out of it", but I've been there, and am now VERY thankful that the person who doesn't know me well, decided to call me and tell me what they knew. Therefore I think I would probably do the same if I heard about another slimball acting that way.

She doesn't deserve to be made out to be an idiot, and the only way she is going to get out of the dark , is if someone tells her.

[bdtraders]

Take it form a guy thats been on both sides of the fence, i cheated on my ex wife plus was cheated on by other girlfriends. He is not only meesing up his life but those of his kids and it needs to stop. If you can get his address write her a letter with no return address or call her from a payphone. I agree dont let him know that it was you that called cause you dont need that issue at work. But by all means let his wife know, if it was me i would go to all lengths to secretly get as much information as i could to give to her.

[eightball61]

This dude wins the idiot award in my book....He is out having fun with other women and talking very ual to him when the last things to cross his mind is his wife and children. He is the one that will set himself up for a failing marriage and will be his fault when the courts decide she gets the custody of the children and he misses out on father hood even more. Maybe he just won't care since thats the way he is now.

This isn't your business though but then she does have the right to know. If you decide to say something then write an annonomous letter to her. I wouldn't make a call to her because even if they had caller id then they can trace you number back by the phone company. If you do place a call do it from a pay phone.

Thanks for sharing this post with us and keep us updated if yu do anything about it.

[totellornot]

Take it form a guy thats been on both sides of the fence, i cheated on my ex wife plus was cheated on by other girlfriends. He is not only meesing up his life but those of his kids and it needs to stop. If you can get his address write her a letter with no return address or call her from a payphone. I agree dont let him know that it was you that called cause you dont need that issue at work. But by all means let his wife know, if it was me i would go to all lengths to secretly get as much information as i could to give to her.


My ex husband also cheated on me and I wish someone had clued me in sooner. I know the people he worked with new and it made me look like a fool for being with him as long as I was. That is one of the reasons I want to tell this poor woman.

[bdtraders]

Yea follow your heart and do whats right, but also look out for yourself and make sure you dont cause yourself to be sucked into the vortex of HIS and HER problem.

[SALly]

Don't tell. It is none of your business!

[SALly]

Don't let past misfortunes in your life cause you to meddle in the lives of others. So you think you can relate to this poor woman. Basically, I bet you know nothing about the personal lives of these people- stay out of it. Or if you must say something- tell the man next to you that you can hear him and you would appreciate he not do that anymore.

[littleLou]

In my personal opinion, how can anyone of judge him for what he is doing or her for that matter....we have no idea what the situation is with either one of them......maybe they REALLY do love eachother and it just isn't the right time to end things with his spouse or hurt his children yet........

[SALly]

I've changed my stand on this issue. I agree with telling the spouse about the cheating. Cheating is so wrong and so terrible, the spouse has the right to know. I used to cheat and never really thought that much about it. Now that it has happened to me, I realize the pain it causes.

[Howard]

Maybe it's best to just keep quiet and not tell anyone cause then you'll get yourself in hot water.

[SALly]

Yeah that's always best....just like not cheating in the first place would be best!

[eightball61]

just like not cheating in the first place would be best!

Exactly........................ ;)


Well Said :)

[SALly]

Thanks. It's weird how my views have changed so much. I guess it just took me and my marriage hitting rock bottom to figure things out.

[eightball61]

Thanks. It's weird how my views have changed so much. I guess it just took me and my marriage hitting rock bottom to figure things out.


Reality struck when your life hit rock bottom. Now, it's on the uprise :)

[SALly]

I hope the same is happening for bdtraders.....

[eightball61]

I hope the same is happening for bdtraders.....


Same here.....

[SALly]

I received a message from him a little while back that said he had gotten a new job that he was happy with. That sounds like a plus...

[eightball61]

I received a message from him a little while back that said he had gotten a new job that he was happy with. That sounds like a plus...


I never got a message :(

That is a plus though and I hope all is going well for him.

[SALly]

Well I had sent him a PM one time just saying to check in once in a while and I hoped he was ok. So I think that's why he sent a quick one back. I went to forward it to you but I deleted it.

[eightball61]

That's ok but I do hope to hear from him soon :confused:

[piratesmate]

when my first husband was cheating on me all throughout our 20 year marriage.
Even a hint or a note or letter or phone call or something would have been fine. Then, maybe things would have been different and maybe he wouldn't have got my best friend pregnant.
I would have stayed with him if he hadn't got her pregnant with their son.

Now, if I know someone who's spouse is cheating on them and I know this first hand only, I would inform them. They have a right to know if their spouse is cheating on them and I don't think it would be none-of-my business if I knew the person personally.

[SALly]

Agreed. :)

[Howard]

I know I would never cheat with Robin because I want to stay faithful to her all the time BUT who the hell knows what happens when I'm not around and she's alone.I'm thinking that she's fooling around with another guy but I can't jump to conclusions.

[eightball61]

I'm thinking that she's fooling around with another guy but I can't jump to conclusions.

Howard, you are jumping to conclusions thinking this way.:rolleyes:

[Howard]

Howard, you are jumping to conclusions thinking this way.:rolleyes:


Hey I know that but you never know,8Ball.I don't know what goes on inside her house when I'm not there with her.She could be lying to me for all I know and probably has a guy who's been having with her.

[eightball61]

Hey I know that but you never know,8Ball.I don't know what goes on inside her house when I'm not there with her.She could be lying to me for all I know and probably has a guy who's been having with her.


Insecurities can ruin a relationship......

[Howard]

Insecurities can ruin a relationship......



The only thing she's insecure is about her body.She claims her Parents are putting her down cause she's fat/overweight but I think she's very beautiful and very attractive.I won't let her parents put her down in any way,shape or form.She's eye candy to me. :)

[eightball61]

The only thing she's insecure is about her body.She claims her Parents are putting her down cause she's fat/overweight but I think she's very beautiful and very attractive.I won't let her parents put her down in any way,shape or form.She's eye candy to me. :)


Howard, I am talking about "your" insecurities. You are wondering if she's cheating because you don't know what she thinks when you're not around......It's time to stop thinking this way and be happy for what you have right now.

[Howard]

Howard, I am talking about "your" insecurities. You are wondering if she's cheating because you don't know what she thinks when you're not around......It's time to stop thinking this way and be happy for what you have right now.



Hi Eightball,I just think crazy thoughts.How do you know what she's thinking? I don't know myself.I guess I just overreact sometimes in certain situations. :(

[eightball61]

I guess I just overreact sometimes in certain situations. :(


That probably is true......

[Howard]

That probably is true......



I know I overreact.But it could be true.I want to know that nothing's going up her butt except me.I haven't tried her out full time but I'm just looking out for her.I also want to make sure she's clean and pure for that special day and special moment.She better not be lying to me. :mad:

[SALly]

Not to bring up such an old post, but I was curious as to people's opinions.... Like in my situation-- where my husband and my best friend were caught having an affair. Would you tell her husband about it? Don't you feel he should know about it too?

[eightball61]

Not to bring up such an old post, but I was curious as to people's opinions.... Like in my situation-- where my husband and my best friend were caught having an affair. Would you tell her husband about it? Don't you feel he should know about it too?


I am the type that doesn't speak up unless it affects me personally. If I witness something like this happening and realize the wrong in it I still probably wouldn't say anything because I don't like to be caught up in the middle. The other partner does have the right to know on what's going on but I would rather leave it up to someone else to do the talking.

That's just my opinion.

~8Ball

[SALly]

Going by the original post, I probably wouldn't say anything. But being directly involved...like in my situation, I think I have the right to say something. If it was reversed, I sure as hell would want someone to tell me.

[eightball61]

If it was reversed, I sure as hell would want someone to tell me.

I agree......This is a tough decision to make. Deep down you want to say something but the better half of you is telling you not to. There are some people out there that will tell but I am not one of those people though because I hate being in the middle of something or having the spotlight. I like keeping a low profile :D

[beaners50]

Since I am new here, let me tell you alittle bit about myself.......i am 28 years old and engaged to the man of my dreams, but after reading a few of these threads, i am almost scared to get married.....i have so many questions, but let me begin with this one....SALly, i must say i am so sorry to hear about what happened to you.....i understand that you no longer want anything to do with your "ex" friend, but how can you justify not accepting her and still being able to accept your husband? Also, how do you know that she hasn't told her husband? After hearing your story it makes me wonder about a few things in my own life.......does anyone out there have a HAPPY marriage?

[SALly]

Well there is love with my husband for one thing... there is no love with the exfriend. Things is our lives started going downhill when I met her. It is not her fault, but there were many factors used in all my decisions.
She told me she told her husband but I have found out otherwise.
BTW- our marriage is happy! Forget speed bumps, we hit a sinkhole, but we are climbing out and we will be OK.
Don't let it scare you, lots of people are happy!

[beaners50]

I guess i will get over my nervousness about getting married, but i am still very very nervouse.....so i take it she told you that she told her husband, and then told you that she didn't.....I don't think you can blame her for your marital problems.....i think you are using her as an escape goat.....i was previously engaged and found out that my ex-fiance was messing around with my friend.....i never forgave either one of them....i am out of the engagement and friendship, but i still talk to both of them.....do you have to see your friend everyday???? I didn't have to see her or him everyday so that made it easier....

[SALly]

yeah I see her all the time, her and her husband and I all work at the same place. Odd, eh???
I don't blame her. BUT I'm not going to throw away everything I have because of her.

[eightball61]

i am 28 years old and engaged to the man of my dreams, but after reading a few of these threads, i am almost scared to get married


If these boards are having that much of an influence on your way of thinking then you need to stop reading so you can marry the man of your dreams without hesitation.

~8Ball

[beaners50]

8ball - u could be right

[beaners50]

SALly - my heart goes out to you.........so how did u find out about her NOT telling her husband? I think it is a blessing for the both of you that you aren't friends anymore........it sounds as if you both have alot of marital problems.......and it sounds as if you are working on yours....good luck to you

[SALly]

Well you have to understand, most people don't come on here just to talk about their bliss.....usually they have some sort of issues going on.....

[SALly]

SALly - my heart goes out to you.........so how did u find out about her NOT telling her husband? I think it is a blessing for the both of you that you aren't friends anymore........it sounds as if you both have alot of marital problems.......and it sounds as if you are working on yours....good luck to you
I don't care to disclose that on this forum as she still reads my info.

[beaners50]

I think you're right SALly, maybe there are problems in my situation, but the sad part is that my fiance and i read these together.......i feel sorry for you AND your friend......

[beaners50]

SALly, i am sorry that we can't talk anymore.....i sure hope things work out for you

[SALly]

I think you're right SALly, maybe there are problems in my situation, but the sad part is that my fiance and i read these together.......i feel sorry for you AND your friend......
Why is it sad that you two read these together? I'm not sure what you mean....
You really don't need to feel sorry for me, I'm ok.

[eightball61]

I think you're right SALly, maybe there are problems in my situation, but the sad part is that my fiance and i read these together.......i feel sorry for you AND your friend......

Posting together may be a strong benefit to your relationship if you both are having problems. If you rather read the threads then please be my guest but don't allow it to ruin your thoughts. If it does keep triggering thoughts that you don't want then you need to take this site off your favorites list...lol ;)

~8ball

[beaners50]

it doesn't sound like you're ok........you sound as though you still have alot of resentment towards her...

[beaners50]

Well 8ball, all i can say is when we do start thinking a certain way, or him for that matter, we talk about it........communication is the key!!

[beaners50]

SALly, i thought you didn't want to talk about this in this forum. Are you ok talking about it now?

[SALly]

Well yeah I'm pissed as hell. Mainly pissed that she pretended to be my friend for years while then ing my husband whenever she got the chance.....it isn't like that will just go away. I'm pissed at the pain it has caused so many people, damn right I'm pissed, angry, hateful!!!!!
But none-the-less--- I'm OK!!!! My husband and I are communicating better than ever right now..this termoil has made us stronger and realize that our love is not lost.

[SALly]

SALly, i thought you didn't want to talk about this in this forum. Are you ok talking about it now?
I didn't want to answer how I know she didnt' tell her husband....
It is weird how you seem so interested in me though.....

[eightball61]

........communication is the key!!


Communication is the biggest key to success. You can never to much communication in a relationship..lol :p I am glad though that you both are open and able to talk with each other.

Good Luck & we are here anytime ;)

~8Ball

[beaners50]

what do you mean by "i seem so interested in you"? I do believe i explained myself to begin with, plus i've responded to 8ball. Wow r u defensive, chill out

[beaners50]

Thanks 8ball!!!

[SALly]

No problem, I'm chilled. I didn't mean anything by that.

[beaners50]

OK - SALly

[SALly]

I think you're right SALly, maybe there are problems in my situation, but the sad part is that my fiance and i read these together.......i feel sorry for you AND your friend......
Why exactly do you feel sorry for my friend?

[beaners50]

because you have no idea as to why

[SALly]

Whatever-- you aren't making much sense.....

[beaners50]

And you seem to be a very miserable person

[SALly]

Nice response..... I'm a very nice person actually. I have been miserable at times, but most people do go through some bad times in their lives. I don't mind any comments you wish to make about me though...fire away.... I'm not sure why you are trying to get under my skin or be mean to me. It all seems very immature!

[beaners50]

all i said was i was felt sorry for both you and your friend......neither one of us knows why she did what she did, but she must have done it for a reason. I was telling you that i felt sorry for your situation and you seemed to get defensive. That's all i am saying. Sorry if i seem too abrupt, but you don't seem as though you were much better than her

[SALly]

The reason she did it doesn't matter to me. There is no good reason--- no reason that makes fu*king my husband OK. Any reason is really just an excuse.
And no I'm not much better than her, I never tried to hide what I did. I have been unfaithful. But I never pretended to be friends with someone and did everything with them, and was basically a member of their family---meanwhile ing the husband.....

[SALly]

all i said was i was felt sorry for both you and your friend......neither one of us knows why she did what she did, but she must have done it for a reason. I was telling you that i felt sorry for your situation and you seemed to get defensive. That's all i am saying. Sorry if i seem too abrupt, but you don't seem as though you were much better than her
Also honestly, I did talk to her....I asked her why.

[eightball61]

http://www.spacespider.net/emo/gen027.gif

[SALly]

http://www.spacespider.net/emo/gen027.gif
hahahaha- almost as bad as you and Yourstruly!!!!

[eightball61]

Edit:

Joke was meant one way but taken wrong the other way. It was more meant for laughter because of heated discussions that me and another poster seem to have going daily. Due to "maturity" & "respect" I have decided to remove this image off.

Thank You,

~8Ball

[yourstruly]

excuse me?

[Howard]

I don't think you should tell anyone.I'd rather keep myself quiet so I wouldn't get into trouble.

[eightball61]

excuse me?


Sorry if you took that the wrong way, yourstruly. We have had some pretty heated discussions and now I am trying to find some laughter to break the ice between us all. I know we won't always agree with each other but we are all here for the same purpose and thats to seek help and also supply help.

Again, I didn't mean any harm to that post and I hope you can see my view to this.

~8Ball

[littlesister]

Not to bring up such an old post, but I was curious as to people's opinions.... Like in my situation-- where my husband and my best friend were caught having an affair. Would you tell her husband about it? Don't you feel he should know about it too?

Hey SALly I might out of spite ;) Why should you be the only one who went through hell? Anyway if I knew him well enough I think I sure would. Tell him he needs to keep a collar and chain on his wife. :D

[yourstruly]

I am woman hear me roar. eightball you INFERRED that you blow me away. so don't EVEN tell me you meant nothing harmful by it. Just know that I've got 15 years on you, kid. I've said in MANY of my posts on here that I do not try to out-advise ANYONE, even you, and I have also said that all of our opinions are great and that nobodies advice is either right or wrong. The LEAST you can do is not post things like you did. Thank you very much. Get yer head out of yer own ass and respect other people why dontcha?

[eightball61]

I am woman hear me roar. eightball you INFERRED that you blow me away. so don't EVEN tell me you meant nothing harmful by it. Just know that I've got 15 years on you, kid. I've said in MANY of my posts on here that I do not try to out-advise ANYONE, even you, and I have also said that all of our opinions are great and that nobodies advice is either right or wrong. The LEAST you can do is not post things like you did. Thank you very much. Get yer head out of yer own ass and respect other people why dontcha?


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You got 15 years of what on me???http://www.spacespider.net/emo/common046.gif Before you start talking about your years of service to me you may want to think why you're are STILL single & ing married men. You have nothing so shut it while your ahead.


~8Ball

[yourstruly]

You got 15 years of what on me. Before you start talking about your years of service to me you may want to think to to why you are STILL single & ing married men. You have nothing so shut it while your ahead.~8Ball

LOL excuse me? And who are YOU, the judge and the jury? All I said was RESPECT me and not THINK you are all high and mighty and that you blow me away. Is that so hard? And I am NOT ing married men anymore. Is this how you treat ALL people you've given advice to that stay around?

[eightball61]

Is this how you treat ALL people you've given advice to that stay around?

Only to those that have 15 years of service in front of them & like to think highly about themselves. Pfffff...:rolleyes:..& you think I speak highly of myself......Get Real!!!

I am done this conversation though because most mature people know how to accept an apology. Again sorry & I will be the mature one and leave things like that.

Good Luck with life, yourstruly.

~8Ball

[yourstruly]

ce'st la vie, eightball. you're the one that started this, not I. I was very offended by the image that you posted in your message, inferring that our fights are "you blowing me away". And then you apologized. But sorry, an apology isn't good enough in this case because you revealed your real attitude towards me. I'm just sorry that I see the real you now.

So as of now, I no longer respect you as a fellow advice giver. Which is quite a shame because we are supposed to be all in this together, giving advice and support to people who need it. You need not throw stuff I've posted about, about my own life, needing advice, into my face. That is NOT acceptable. And I will not tolerate it.

Grow up, eightball. One day you will learn.

[eightball61]

I was very offended by the image that you posted in your message,


Do to respect, the image has been removed and the post has been edited.

Case Closed

Thank You,

~8ball

[SALly]

decided I was being witchy

[SALly]

decided I was being witchy

[SALly]

What? no beaners50 today?? And I was in the chatty mood too.
I do have a question.... why does the reason she f*cked my husband make any difference? I guess if it was rape I could see it making a difference, but she already told me it wasn't rape- she was a willing participant.

AND it was fu*king several times over a period of years....it wasn't just 'ooops a drunkin incident' or something.....
So I'm not seeing any "reason" that would cause anyone to NOT be pissed/spiteful at their closest friend for f*cking their husband....but please enlighten me if you know of an acceptable reason!

[SALly]

Hubby and I decided that yes we do want to tell the 's hubby. He has the right to know the truth, not just the BS that she is telling him. The felt the need to make sure that I heard all about what happened- so........ what comes around goes around I guess..... I already wrote a letter out.

[eightball61]

Hubby and I decided that yes we do want to tell the 's hubby. He has the right to know the truth, not just the BS that she is telling him. The felt the need to make sure that I heard all about what happened- so........ what comes around goes around I guess..... I already wrote a letter out.


That's sounds like a solid decision but you need to think about something before you send this letter out. At times, you are having it rough working with her. Once they get this letter it's most likely going to be rougher. In another words, you may want to start looking for a new job.

[SALly]

Yeah I know that.
I told her a while back that we were considering telling him. She said she would tell him and she would rather have him hear it from her. So we gave her every opportunity.

[eightball61]

She said she would tell him and she would rather have him hear it from her.


How do you know she hasn't told him yet?

[SALly]

Well I talk to someone that she doesn't really know I'm friends with---and let's just say I found out. I don't really want to say too much in that area since she could read this.....

[eightball61]

Well I talk to someone that she doesn't really know I'm friends with---and let's just say I found out. I don't really want to say too much in that area since she could read this.....


Understandable....I just wanted to make sure that you both haven't started talking again.

Thanks :)

~8Ball

[SALly]

Oh ppppllllleeeeaaaassssseeeee!!!!!!!!!

[eightball61]

Oh ppppllllleeeeaaaassssseeeee!!!!!!!!!

...............lol :p

[yourstruly]

why stir the shit back up?

karma will get her in the end.

"revenge is best served cold"

[SALly]

why stir the shit back up?

karma will get her in the end.

"revenge is best served cold"
I guess spite, revenge. That fact that she has hurt me and my family so much that I want her to go down. You are right though. I would just be stooping to her level. Her existence is pitiful enough. She has nothing in life, and she never will. She once told me that she lies so much that she doesn't know who she told what to anymore. It has all got to backfire one day just like things with her and I did. That was back when I believed her when she said "I lie to everyone else, but I would never lie to YOU"..... I wonder how many people she has told that too. And how many people still believe her???? Oh well..... I am moving on with my life and it is going well. It is only on this forum that I still dwell on her shit. You were right YT when you said the reason she wanted him was that he was mine. She is so jealous of me. My hubby is fun, loves to go do things, not just sit around and watch tv (her hubby hates to go do anything), we have wonderful kids (which she can't have any of), I have a huge family that gets together and we all get along and have a ball, she has none of that (most of her family has disowned her). I guess my revenge should be living well with all these joys I have in my life. Leave her to live with hers if she can find any!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[yourstruly]

SaLly,

Remember when I talked about my ex best friend on here, the one who would contact guys from my past and seduce them? The one who contacted my recent ex bf not even two days after she knew we broke up, consoled him, seduced him, and turned him against me? Well now he and I can't even be friends, she has turned him against me so much. Her whole life has been like this. Her whole life she has used people. She cannot stand on her own. She can't live alone, she either lives with a guy, or with someone else who will help her. She even lived with me 3 times. And, she's not happy enough with the guys SHE gets, that she has to contact all mine. It's been this way for 7 years. I finally called the whole friendship off. The last one was the straw that broke the camel's back. The saddest part is that she has never apologized, never owned up to the fact that she hurt me by doing what she has done all these years, and never will. Even tho we had a PACT that ex bf's were off limits. Some people might think that going out with a best friends ex is not a bad thing, but it is when we made a promise that we wouldnt, because it was causing major problems between us. (I, too, had gone out with a cpl guys from her past, but the difference there was that THEY contacted ME, I didn't contact THEM). She has even lied twice (that I know of) about guys she's "ed" that were in my past when I had the proof but she still sat there, right in front of me and lied.

(and you're right for thinking that the guys are scum too......but ya gotta remember, most of these guys were from my wilder days back in 98-2001.)

Well, let me tell you something about karma.

This ex best friend is getting karma, in some pretty large doses, and it's thru no doing of mine. She has always been kinda sickly (diabetes, asthma, endometriosis) plus she is clumsy so she was always getting hurt on the job (too many times to count actually). She's actually awaiting back surgery right now because of being hurt on her last job--she's living on workers comp). (She's living on workers comp yet she still gets her nails and toes done every two weeks.) She always has a sob story. But she could be doing lots of things to help herself like exercise, she could stop chain smoking, etc, but she doesn't. Latest sob story is that she just found out she has lupus and has 5 years to live. Not sure I wanna believe it, but if it is so, it's karma working. I truly believe that.

It eventually comes around, SaLly. It really does. Revenge is not in our hands.

[SALly]

Thanks for the info YT. I'm starting to realize that you're right about the karma, etc. The b*tch is going down without my help.....

[yourstruly]

SaLly, that's great! See, revenge is not our job. You and your husband bucked the system. You are working things out! That's how it's supposed to happen! She would have liked nothing more than for your husband and you to part ways and seperate! Right? But now she's getting her medicine! And it's nasty!! lol

[SALly]

I have talked to some people at work that I normally hadn't really hung out with that much....OMG the shit I found out about....it's amazing. Who went running to who to try to explain the rumors....who the guy who had the affair with the blamed for it, etc...... Let's just say- I'm so glad to have NOTHING to do with the anymore!

[eightball61]

I have talked to some people at work that I normally hadn't really hung out with that much....OMG the shit I found out about....it's amazing. Who went running to who to try to explain the rumors....who the guy who had the affair with the blamed for it, etc...... Let's just say- I'm so glad to have NOTHING to do with the anymore!


If you're so glad then why are you still trying to find out what she is doing or saying. You shouldn't even care if you're this glad.

[SALly]

I wasn't trying to find out. These people just started talking and gossiping like they always do. I didn't even contribute anything, I just listened to what they had to say....as it was all quite amusing.

[eightball61]

I wasn't trying to find out. These people just started talking and gossiping like they always do. I didn't even contribute anything, I just listened to what they had to say....as it was all quite amusing.

Oh sorry.... The way you said "I have talked to some people at work that I normally hadn't really hung out with that much....OMG the shit I found out about" sounded (to me) like when went to go find out.

Sorry once again :)

[SALly]

No problem 8ball.

[SALly]

The exfriend invited me to a party. She conveniently keeps forgetting to return an item that I requested her to return to me, but yet she will invite me a party??!! The chic is psycho. Oh well- it's no big deal and doesn't affect me in any way. I politely told her no and that I don't wish to be anywhere near her unless it is absolutely necessary. Maybe she will get the hint that I don't want to be friends anymore.....fuking my husband isn't just something time heals and we can forget about and laugh it off. Overall I'm doing great. I just needed to express this somewhere and I didn't want to go gossiping at work so I typed it here. Thanks for listening.

[yourstruly]

The exfriend invited me to a party. She conveniently keeps forgetting to return an item that I requested her to return to me, but yet she will invite me a party??!! The chic is psycho. Oh well- it's no big deal and doesn't affect me in any way. I politely told her no and that I don't wish to be anywhere near her unless it is absolutely necessary. Maybe she will get the hint that I don't want to be friends anymore.....fuking my husband isn't just something time heals and we can forget about and laugh it off. Overall I'm doing great. I just needed to express this somewhere and I didn't want to go gossiping at work so I typed it here. Thanks for listening.

hey girl. I hear ya. I can't believe she has the nerve to even talk to you. What does she think, she can just sweep it all under a rug like it never even happened? yeah right.

[eightball61]

Overall I'm doing great.


It's great to hear that things are going well for you. Keep up being strong ;)

[SALly]

hey girl. I hear ya. I can't believe she has the nerve to even talk to you. What does she think, she can just sweep it all under a rug like it never even happened? yeah right.
Who knows. She is trying to act like nothing ever happened...and of course like she is the victim in all this. Slowly but surely everyone is finding out for themselves how she really is. I'm glad I am continuing on the "right" path now.

[SALly]

It's great to hear that things are going well for you. Keep up being strong ;)
Thanks 8ball.