what do I do?

[chocoholic]

am a 1st year uni student and have recently fallen for my hsemate. think he liked me before but i was obsessed wiv an old flame-which he actually helped me wiv.within the last 2months i realised i liked him a lot more. we spend loads of time together, playfight and share the same bed often(nothing happens). hes not , sometimes i thiught he was flirting but its realy difficult to know, hes v.quiet and shy.left a note in his room explaining that i liked him as i thought it was odd we share a bed n stuff.and hes been the same,not mentioned it.Is this his way of letting me down gently?should i bring it up in conversation or leave it? oh and he talked bout a girl to me for the first time last week, just some hot girl hed been too scared to talk 2. surely hes being slightly insensitive wen he knows i like him?please help, any advice would be useful,i cant view it objectively so not sure if just deluding myself that hes interested.

[bdtraders]

my simple answer is already answered by you - ASK HIM

[chocoholic]

so u wouldnt automatically assume hes not interested cos he hasnt mentioned it then? what should i say exactly, i dont want to freak him out. what if i ask him about the note and he just says he got it and nothing else? his mates say im closer to him than them and that he wont talk about me if they ask.he told them he didnt know y he spent so much time wiv me. i knw i sound so lame but i tried to tell him so many times that i liked him and still ended up leavin a note, how do i work up the courage to approach the subject, especially cos hes in Ghana for three weeks before i see him again.

[bdtraders]

Just ask him if he saw the note you left for him. If he says yea then ask him since he hasnt responded should you assume hes not interested and move on? If he says no he didnt see the note tell him, oh well it just said i liked you and wanted to know if you wanted to go out sometimes and maybe become closer.
just be honest with him, worse case senerio is he says hes not interested and at this point nothing lost because you havent put anything into it then just a note.
Just be honest. I know theres nothing more then I like then a honest person. i find it very attractive when the person persuing me is upfront and honest and dosent BS or beat around the bush. Honesty is very y to me.

[chocoholic]

ok. thanks very much for your advice, i guess i kinda knew i had to ask, just that iwas scared and trying to find a way of doing it that didnt involve me laying my feelings on the line. well im going to ask him wen he gets back so il report back in a few weeks-hopefully it wont be about how to cope wiv him getting wiv other girls while im living wiv him!

[bdtraders]

sometimes you have to lay your feelings on the line. Remember with great risks come the greatest rewards.

I remember there was this HOT woman i worked with in 1995 and all the guys hit on her and she shot them all down. I moved on to another company and went back to visit my old friends and she was there. She asked if i would go to lunch with her and i was shocked, i said yes. Over lunch she told me about her new marriage and asked me if she could ask me something ,i said sure. She asked why I never asked her out,I told her i didnt want to get rejected like all the other guys, she said "oh, well you wouldnt have, i just figured you didnt like me so i didnt hit on you either, we both laughed and kicked each other in the butts.

So go for it, worse thing is he says NO

[eightball61]

Its hard to determine his actions or what he really wants. It does show he has an interest for you but you wont really know much more than that unless you ask. You can do it in a letter form but be adult like and approach it face to face and express how you feel and want and then see what he feels.