bto1072
10-28-2009, 01:39 AM
Hoping for some great advice -
I have been looking at other people's stories online to help me out and haven't really found a situation that really applied to mine so here goes:
My girlfriend and i dated for about 20 months and everything was perfect. We never fought, we never were mad at each other longer then a few minutes, we would go out all the time, movies, dinner, etc. It was my first long term relationship and it was the best i could ever ask for. We started dating in high school and everyone knows that most of those realtionships never really last more then a couple months, but what we had was different. I was a year older than her and graduated a year before her and went to the local commnity college. We stayed together and everything was fine. She, however, got accepted into a school in LA. When the time came for her to move away and go to school i sat her down and we talked about our situation. We came to the conclusion that we would have a tough time with school and being there for each other at the same time so we decided that it would be better if we broke up and spare ourselves from a harder break up over the phone or internet.
For a few weeks it was fine and we still talked about every day. I guess the break up hadnt really sank in yet. It wasnt until a few weeks later that she said to me that i was starting to crowd her and not letting her have the true college experience. This devastated me. I have been a wreck ever since. We have talked since then and have actually met up for coffee while she came back for a weekend and it went really well, no awkward moments or anything.
I decided that i didnt want to feel this way anymore and thought to myself the only way i am going to get over this is if i cut all ties and if she truly wants to be friends with me that she will come to me. Since then she has actually called me a couple times and we talk and everything went well.
I guess what still bothers me is that there is no question that if she was still in town with me or if i was down in LA with her that we'd still be together. We broke up simply for the fact that we COULDNT be together not that we didnt WANT to be together. She has even said that if i was down there things would be different.
My question is that with this type of break up and how we know things would be different if we were still in close proximity, is it possible to remain friends and talk or should i cut ties and move on? I love and care about her more than anything and only want her to be happy.
I have been looking at other people's stories online to help me out and haven't really found a situation that really applied to mine so here goes:
My girlfriend and i dated for about 20 months and everything was perfect. We never fought, we never were mad at each other longer then a few minutes, we would go out all the time, movies, dinner, etc. It was my first long term relationship and it was the best i could ever ask for. We started dating in high school and everyone knows that most of those realtionships never really last more then a couple months, but what we had was different. I was a year older than her and graduated a year before her and went to the local commnity college. We stayed together and everything was fine. She, however, got accepted into a school in LA. When the time came for her to move away and go to school i sat her down and we talked about our situation. We came to the conclusion that we would have a tough time with school and being there for each other at the same time so we decided that it would be better if we broke up and spare ourselves from a harder break up over the phone or internet.
For a few weeks it was fine and we still talked about every day. I guess the break up hadnt really sank in yet. It wasnt until a few weeks later that she said to me that i was starting to crowd her and not letting her have the true college experience. This devastated me. I have been a wreck ever since. We have talked since then and have actually met up for coffee while she came back for a weekend and it went really well, no awkward moments or anything.
I decided that i didnt want to feel this way anymore and thought to myself the only way i am going to get over this is if i cut all ties and if she truly wants to be friends with me that she will come to me. Since then she has actually called me a couple times and we talk and everything went well.
I guess what still bothers me is that there is no question that if she was still in town with me or if i was down in LA with her that we'd still be together. We broke up simply for the fact that we COULDNT be together not that we didnt WANT to be together. She has even said that if i was down there things would be different.
My question is that with this type of break up and how we know things would be different if we were still in close proximity, is it possible to remain friends and talk or should i cut ties and move on? I love and care about her more than anything and only want her to be happy.