What should I do? [Archive] - Relationship Forums

Krizto

03-23-2005, 02:27 AM

Hey, ok here is my little delima and wondering what everyone thinks I should do:

I have meet this chick Anna and really like her, we've been out a few time and everything is going really well. Then last Sunday she come's to my place and tell me she is still living with her ex whom she broke up with about four months ago. Anyway I was cool with all this and he suggested she start seeing other people a few weeks ago ... which she has. Now he know's about me and when they spoke on Sunday night he kinda went off at her for spending so much time at my place, etc. On Monday morning he said he wanted her to move out by the end of the day. Monday night they sat down and had a chat and he now wants to try and work things out however she doesn't know what to do and feels she is torn between two guys and not sure which way to jump. She know's how I feel about her and has told me how she feels about me, what should I do in the mean time?

Any thoughts much appreciated.

Thanx, J

PS: Yes, fake names have been used :)

Diablo

03-23-2005, 03:01 AM

MissCheivious

03-23-2005, 01:08 PM

I agree with Diablo. You might want her and your natural instinct might be to pressure her to choose you over her ex. Just remember it's possible she won't want to work it out with her ex but, they have history together and that sometimes wins out. Honestly, I think her ex might just be messing with her head. If they broke up four months ago, why is he just now getting jealous about her going out with you? You can't let someone go and then expect them not to move on. The best thing to do is just be supportive and don't say anything snide about her ex to her. If anything gets too uncomfortable (ie the ex confronting you, etc), get out and let them deal with it. Good luck.

eightball61

03-23-2005, 01:40 PM

Just make sure that Anna enjoys herself when she's with you and do not let her feel pressured by you. In this situation, the guy who keeps a cooler head usually wins out, but not always. If her ex appears to be unreasonable and demanding, while you seem cool...

I agree with this 100%.....You need to make her feel comfortable around you. Be open to everything and don't hide who you really are. She will respect you more if you take this approach. Good things can come out of this but only time will tell. Continue the path that you are currently on and show her what of a good guy you are. If her heart decides to go back then that be her choice. All you can do is show her the kind of person you are. You dont want to pressure her off to much. Just give her space if needed and treat her like a friend and see what happens

Take care

Rich

03-24-2005, 02:39 PM

Right now your GF is confused because she probably doesn't want to rekindle things with her ex....but she also needs a place to live.

If she's not prepared to financially live on her own and she's not moving in with you (which you should not do), then she's caught between a rock and a hard place.

You should help her find a place on her own if you can. Be understanding and supportive.

Rich