Need advice please..

[ww404]

Okay, so me and my girlfriend broke up a couple days ago, well i broke up with her. Mainly because if i wanted to be her boyfriend i would have to give up everything and be with her only. And i couldnt take that. I wanted to be able to hang out with my friends. But right now, i dont know if that is what i want now. I want my girlfriend back. But the only way that would happen is if i agree to have her as the only thing in my life. I LOVED hanging out with her, and feeling like im loved, and talking to her everyday (we texted non-stop basicly). Anyways, now im lonley..and im having trouble reconnecting with people..i have no one to really talk too, and im spending most of my time on myspace and facebook. with no one wanting to talk to me. Im bad with social skills.

So what do i do? Should i get back with her because im lonley and i miss her and always had fun with her..or should i just move on and feel lonely and have nothing to do..

Please, please help me with this.

[WhatAMess]

Why would you only be able to be with her? She isn't willing to share your time? Has she said that you have to spend every waking minute with her?

Tell her you love her and miss her and feel that your life isn't the same without her... but that having friends and being able to relax with the buddies is also important to you. Find out if she'd be fine with you having an evening or two of independent activity. She goes out with her friends or she does her own thing and you do yours.

Long term relationships aren't about isolation. They are about having a mate... a companion who you love and want to spend time with, but are able to still be your own person.

[PhalThrax]

In a scenerio such as this, it's a double-edged sword. She's obviously a bit fastidious of your attempts at maintaining solid friendships. However, in an attempt to ostrasize yourself from her grip, you now feel lost.

Unfortunately, with any scenerio, sacrifices are made. Generally, it's not pleasing either way, but you acquire an appreciation for it. Personally, I would not continue in a relationship that forbids you from spending time with your friends simply due to ego issues. The path you took is the correct one, and I applaud you for it.

With any breakup, it's inevitable to feel some remorse. However, if you still feel upset about the situation due to losing a loved one, sit down with her and have a sincere discussion of your concerns. You have every right to socialize with your friends, and her attempt at forbidding that is downright disturbing.

Keep your chin up! Please keep us informed as to how this progresses. Hang in there!

[smackie9]

So when she gets tired of you and dumps you, what then? Your friends won't be around anymore. Then you will be lonely for sure. There are more, less selfish, less insecure, and less self absorbed girls out there for you to go out with. Your head over road your heart just enough to see how wrong it is for her or anyone to put that kind of demand on you. You did the right thing by breaking up with her.

[catt]

This could be another case of a girl wanting more from a relationship than you're willing to give. There has to be some reason behind her trying to keep you all to herself. She might be insecure and thinking of crazy thoughts when you're not with her...talk to her.

[Rich]

You dump her because she won't let you hang with your friends and then you turn around and basically say that you're alone, don't have friends and that your social skills suck.

Which is it.

I say that if you don't have friends, then go back to this girl and be her Biatch.

[ffkkuu]

congratulations will! u've managed to ing make me look like the bad guy, wow i was the one that wasnt taking you back, and its surprising how u left out the part bout u LYiNG thru the WHOLE relationship bout u smoking and drinking about partying wit ur friends, im glad to find out that u've made me look like the bad guy to everyone and i hope u're happy cuz no i regret that i took u back now!

[smackie9]

Oh kool I need to make comment. Sister, he lied because he was trying to avoided your wrath. And for you to....and I've seen this before on here, break into or look through his email to find this post, like wow, you have trust issues. Him lying is a lame ass way to deal with an issue on his part, but all the same, I can see why he did.