my boyfriend wants a shag what should i do

[XbabeX]

last night i was with my boyfriend and he tryed to shag and i dont want to

so he said to me can we do it tomorrow night

i am scared that if i tell him he will break up with me

what should i do

please reply quickly

XbabeX

:( :( :( :(

[eightball61]

You mean he tried to have with you? If not then can you please define your definition of shag?

Also, how old are you both? how long have you been dating? Are you waiting to have ?


I need to have more info. to supply a better answer.

Thanks

8-ball

[Rich]

If you're mentally and emotionally not ready to have with anyone.....then do not!

Do not let your BF pressure you into having if you're not ready to.

If he threatens to leave you over it, then he's not a BF worth having.

Let's talk to the issues as to why you don't want to have .

Are you afraid? Scared? Saving it until marriage? Not sure? Afraid of pregnancy?

How old are you? Do you know about birth control? Do you have questions about that we can answer for you here.

Just remember that we have all been where you are now so don't be embarassed to ask questions or that you'll feel "dumb". The only dumb question is the one not asked.

Better to go into knowing as much as you can, rather than not knowing and maybe having an accident, getting pregnant or not having a good time.

Ask away.

Rich

[Datingcritic]

Look, It's so easy to say from everyone else perspective that if it doesn't feel right, you shouldn't do it...

There's a reason why it's so easy to say... Becuase it's ABSOLUTELY true... I'm sorry, but part of growing up is realizing what you want in life, and what you don't.... as much as (and it's usually the boy in this type of situation, but not always) he may try to confuse the issue... and make it sound like you don't love him, and this thing and that thing... It's all about respecting your decision... and the hard reality comes with making someone understand that if they won't respect your decision, they don't respect you... And if they don't respect you... Cut em lose... TOUGH reality... but... EASY Call...

Everyone deserves respect!

Lance


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[BigisBeautiful2]

is great, his brains out...don't be such a chicken! you're lucky you're getting some!

[seavidae]

Stop before you make a big mistake! is not something to rush in.

[nichol]

if youre not feeling right about it i wouldnt do it.
plus yeah like eightball asked, how old are u? and how long have u been together?
i guess u have to ask yourself too if is something special to u. is this your very first time?
if a guy leaves u cuz u dont wanna have , do u really wanna be with that guy in the first place cuz it seems like only one thing matters. if he cares about u he will wait.
ive made mistakes before and now i think why do i wanna have to please someone else? from what it seems like it probably wont be much to please u cuz to me it sounds like hes in it for himself only.

[icanhelp]

i am scared
you should never be afraid to tell someone how you feal, also if you tell him you dont want to have and he gets mad then he isnt worth your time :) :)

[Pamelina]

Honest, to gawd, I thought this might be about a haircut. :o

I agree with bigisbeautiful to a certain extent, but not if you have some strong reservations about it. Or is it maybe just with this guy (pressuring you)?

[luvme4ever]

I have one quote I want to share with you. It got me thinking alot, and i hope it will do the same to you. "Guys trade love for , girls trade for love" .

[Howard]

is great, his brains out...don't be such a chicken! you're lucky you're getting some!



Wow,that's putting it so bluntly :D

[Howard]

Nobody said you had to do anything you don't want to do.take your time.be patient with him. :)