padawan
03-25-2005, 07:25 AM
Hi. I need help. I am really hurt right now and don't know what to do. Let me start from the beginning. It might be long, sorry.
I met my girlfriend in high school. We began dating in junior year. We were friends at first, although I always wanted more. I actually fell in love with her before we even started going out. She was dating another guy, so I waited patiently for it to end to ask her out even though it hurt to do so. After we started going out I was the happiest I ever was. After high school we both moved away together and got an apartment. We attended the same college. She was going for nursing and I was going for aviation. Things were always good in our relationship. We never really fought and we loved each other very much. After a little over a year, a horrible accident happened. I was in a plane crash after the aircrafts engine failed on me. Things have never been the same for me. I broke my back crushed the entire right side of my face. She stuck with me through all the tough times and continued to love me.
After I got well enough, we moved back home. she began to go out with her friends to the bar a lot. I told her I was ok with her going as long as it didn't get out of control. Eventually she started going to the bar like 4 days a week. I told her it was too much and she needed to either slow down or loose me. She chose the bar and we broke up. After a week she came back home and said she wouldn't go to the bar so much. She still went on the weekends.
Recently she began hanging out with her friends from college and made a whole bunch of guy friends who are friends of a friend. She has been hanging out with a new crowd. On Feb. 13 she broke up with me. It was awfully cold to break up with me the night before Valentines Day. Plus our anniversary was Feb. 24. She said we are too different because she likes to go to bars and I don't. She also said she needs to be on her own to see what it's like because she wants to be able to go to with her friends anytime she wants and not have to worry about when she is coming home. Since we broke up she has been doing nothing but partying with her new crowd, going out to the city and getting home at 6:30 in the morning. She says she is not ready to get back together because she is having too much fun. She likes to go to clubs and that's all she's doing now. I never let her go to them before because I didn't want other guys trying to dance all on her. She is basically leaving me to party. After only a week of being broken up I found out she went to a party at her friends house with all her guy friends and ended up flashing some guy for beads and kissing him. I was furious, and hurt. After a month and a half of hanging out with this new crowd she has become a totally different person. She acting like a freshman in college, but she is a senior and graduating in one month. I told her when everybody graduates that her college friends will all go their separate ways and begin their lives and careers, but she doesn't care. I really love this girl, but I am afraid that when she realizes what she is doing, it will be too late. I could never be with her again no matter how much I love her after she was with another man, and it's bound to happen if she continues like this. I have been home crying everyday since then and have barely slept or eaten. She doesn't even seem to be upset because she is too busy partying with her friends. She is staying at her friends at the present time also. She keeps saying I am being annoying because I am calling too much and not giving her her space. She told me that yesterday, but it was the first time I called in three days. Last weekend we made plans to hang out today. I was looking forward to it all week. She came over and said she was only staying for 5 minutes because she was going out with her friends. That hurt me a lot. She says another part of her breaking up is because although she still loves me, things don't feel like they did when we first started going out. It's been 6 years, of course their not. I asked her if we could split up, but agree not to see other people for a little while to leave some hope for us getting back together. She said she doesn't know because she wants to see what it's like with another guy. She said she doesn't know what it's like with anybody else. I don't understand because before she broke up with me she would always talk about how she wanted to marry me one day and have my children.
I don't know what to do, and soon it's going to be too late. Please help me get her back, or get rid of the pain. It hurts too much and I can't take it much longer.
Thank you
John :(
I met my girlfriend in high school. We began dating in junior year. We were friends at first, although I always wanted more. I actually fell in love with her before we even started going out. She was dating another guy, so I waited patiently for it to end to ask her out even though it hurt to do so. After we started going out I was the happiest I ever was. After high school we both moved away together and got an apartment. We attended the same college. She was going for nursing and I was going for aviation. Things were always good in our relationship. We never really fought and we loved each other very much. After a little over a year, a horrible accident happened. I was in a plane crash after the aircrafts engine failed on me. Things have never been the same for me. I broke my back crushed the entire right side of my face. She stuck with me through all the tough times and continued to love me.
After I got well enough, we moved back home. she began to go out with her friends to the bar a lot. I told her I was ok with her going as long as it didn't get out of control. Eventually she started going to the bar like 4 days a week. I told her it was too much and she needed to either slow down or loose me. She chose the bar and we broke up. After a week she came back home and said she wouldn't go to the bar so much. She still went on the weekends.
Recently she began hanging out with her friends from college and made a whole bunch of guy friends who are friends of a friend. She has been hanging out with a new crowd. On Feb. 13 she broke up with me. It was awfully cold to break up with me the night before Valentines Day. Plus our anniversary was Feb. 24. She said we are too different because she likes to go to bars and I don't. She also said she needs to be on her own to see what it's like because she wants to be able to go to with her friends anytime she wants and not have to worry about when she is coming home. Since we broke up she has been doing nothing but partying with her new crowd, going out to the city and getting home at 6:30 in the morning. She says she is not ready to get back together because she is having too much fun. She likes to go to clubs and that's all she's doing now. I never let her go to them before because I didn't want other guys trying to dance all on her. She is basically leaving me to party. After only a week of being broken up I found out she went to a party at her friends house with all her guy friends and ended up flashing some guy for beads and kissing him. I was furious, and hurt. After a month and a half of hanging out with this new crowd she has become a totally different person. She acting like a freshman in college, but she is a senior and graduating in one month. I told her when everybody graduates that her college friends will all go their separate ways and begin their lives and careers, but she doesn't care. I really love this girl, but I am afraid that when she realizes what she is doing, it will be too late. I could never be with her again no matter how much I love her after she was with another man, and it's bound to happen if she continues like this. I have been home crying everyday since then and have barely slept or eaten. She doesn't even seem to be upset because she is too busy partying with her friends. She is staying at her friends at the present time also. She keeps saying I am being annoying because I am calling too much and not giving her her space. She told me that yesterday, but it was the first time I called in three days. Last weekend we made plans to hang out today. I was looking forward to it all week. She came over and said she was only staying for 5 minutes because she was going out with her friends. That hurt me a lot. She says another part of her breaking up is because although she still loves me, things don't feel like they did when we first started going out. It's been 6 years, of course their not. I asked her if we could split up, but agree not to see other people for a little while to leave some hope for us getting back together. She said she doesn't know because she wants to see what it's like with another guy. She said she doesn't know what it's like with anybody else. I don't understand because before she broke up with me she would always talk about how she wanted to marry me one day and have my children.
I don't know what to do, and soon it's going to be too late. Please help me get her back, or get rid of the pain. It hurts too much and I can't take it much longer.
Thank you
John :(