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tyshy
02-28-2004, 02:15 PM
I am a senior in high school, and ive met this girl who i work with, and she goes to the local college as a freshman. We seem to get along great, and we share a lot of the same interests, I of course trying to become more interested in what she likes, mostly horses and equine. Anyway, its really hard to tell if we're actually dating, just going out as friends, or what.
I havn't been in a lot of relationships up until now, as most of the girls in my school are sluts, or bimbo's, no offense to anybody. I think its hard to tell if we're dating because of the circumstances in which we go out. The first time was just dinner after i had picked her up from the bus station in the city when she was comming back home from christmas break. We talked, laughed, and had a good time.
Then i think it was a week or so later, i asked her if she wanted to go to the movies, there were a few funny ones out. She agreed, and we did. She paid half, i paid half, and i paid for food/snacks. Then we went about a week later again to the movies, this time i paid for it. Of course these sound like dates to you guys, but we havn't held hands or done anything that most dating couples would do. I can't even tell if she wants to date me or just wants to be friends. She hasn't made any moves towards me, which makes me think she wants me to make the moves, unfortunately im afraid of that type of rejection, and am very reluctant. Last night she asked me to take her out to the bus station to pick up her tickets, because she's going home for break in a week. I asked her if she wanted to do anything while we were out there. She said like what?, and i suggested Ice skating and an IMAX movie (a big domed screen, really cool looking). I guess i was lucky because apparently she loves to ice skate and we had a really good time. Again, no physical contact except a little bit ice skating, but when walking back to the car and stuff she didn't seem to want that. It was pretty cold out, and she hates little kids, of course there was a birthday party at the ice rink, so that didn't really help. On the ride home, i couldn't tell if she just wasn't into the date...or if she was just realy tired. She had complained of a headache, and i offered to stop and get advil or tylenol. She's allergic to tylenol and advil makes her sick. She also has a really busy schedule and should probably sleep more than she does, so i guess its understandable if she's tired.
She has a horse show today, should i go to the horseshow to watch her? Let her know that i do care about what she's doing. I don't wanna seem to needy, so i don't really know what she would think.

I realize that was a long read, but bear with me, and please help if you can.
thanks

browneyedgirl03
02-28-2004, 02:36 PM
i know, it's frustrating when you don't know where you and somebody stand (relationship wise.) I understand that you are afraid of rejection, but the easiest way to find out what your status is.... to ASK! If you do get let down, shake it off-everyone gets rejected somewhere in their life. If not, then you'll definitely be glad that you asked. So next time you and her go out, tell her that you enjoy spending time with her. I'm sure she'll reciprocate the comment, being that you two hang out quite a bit. So then, just ask her what the deal is with yall. If she says that yall are just friends, then be glad to have her as a friend. One can never have too many friends, and that doesn't mean something can't evolve from the friendship later on. Good luck and keep me posted!:)

tyshy
02-28-2004, 02:57 PM
hey thanks, ill try that, as well as the fact that by the 5th time, if she says we're not dating, there's a problem...lol

I don't think ill be rejected, but i guess i need to know where we stand before i initiate anything, that way i don't ruin a friendship, lol

browneyedgirl03
02-28-2004, 03:02 PM
yeah if by the 5th time, yall are still "just friends" let it go babe, and accept that yall are just friends. I'm sure things will work out fine! And remember that girls come and go, but friends always hang around.