Will and Can This Work - Your Opinion

[2BDMD]

Hello to all, I'm glad to find this forum and have a relationship question for you all. The main question for you all is do you think my relationship will work based on the following facts?

Little history:

My current GF and I met roughly 3 years ago in school. Her and I are both in dental school, but she is one academic year ahead of me. I met her during one of first weekends of my first year when she was just starting 2nd year. Fast forward time, we first hooked up roughly 6 months ago and got officially involved in a relationship 3 months ago. She is now a 4th year graduating this May and I'm a 3rd year currently.

The Beautiful (positives):
- we're both from the same culture, we're both each others' first Chinese partners, we both have always dated Caucasians
- the is amazing
- we're both extremely ambious, she's smart and will be very successful
- we communicate well, just about everything and anything in life very openly
- She's very considerate, our Valentine's Day and my birthday were amazing. Based on that, I can tell that she's very into celebrating holidays
- she stated that she has never cheated on her previous boyfriends
- very affectionate WHEN we're together
- I trust her since she has not provided me a reason not to yet

The Ugly (negatives):
- (#1 negative): she's moving after she graduates this May to IL for her residency (3 years). I'll be in FL for another year to finish my degree since I'm an academic year behind her. I am not a fan of LDR. I tried it once with my ex and that did not work.
- she still has a hint of feeling for her ex. Whenever he gets brought up in conversations, I can still sense that she still misses him
- she still talks to her double-ex, phone, text message, and even meeting for lunches and dinners
- we only have about 2 months left until she moves and she spends a lot of time with her friends instead of me. When she has free time, she's out with her friends (guys or girls)
- not very affectionate when at school or place of business, almost as of we're strangers

So based on the above listed facts, this is how I feel: although I believe we have significant potential for a beautiful future, I simply do not think we have enough to build on for a LDR when she leaves for her residency. We talk about our future and that I should try to get my residency next year in IL so I can be with her when I graduate. Getting into a specific residency is not as easy as one thinks, the whole matching/selection process is complicated and uncertain.

I feel that since we only have so little time left before she leaves, we should concentrate on us while we can and perhaps we can build and work on the LDR base on that, but it seems to me that when she should be dedicate her time on us, she spends it with her friends. You would think that one would want to spend time with their SO because of its relationship infancy and it will be a LDR soon. I'm sorry, I refuse to get into a LDR when my GF is putting me 3rd or 4th in her priority list!

Options:

A) Should I just break this off because this relationship is already showing signs of instability and will be a LDR, if we're meant to be, then maybe we cross paths again

OR

B) Should I stay in it because it has potential and she claims that the LDR will work and we'll try to see one another at least once a month, trust her with all weird things that she does including the exs stuff

Please share with me what option you would choose and which reasons listed above cause you to make such decision. I'm leaning more towards option A at this time. Feel free to ask for more detail if needed and thanks in advance for your participation in my relationship poll! :D

[eightball61]

I am not going to tell you to stay or breakup with her because thats not my place and also I can't say if things will work or not. What you need to do is make a list of pros and cons like you did here and see what really fits for you in this situation. This totally is up to you on what you want to do. Anything can happen in that year that you both are apart but if you give it a try then at least you can look back at that and realize that you did give it a try.

[2BDMD]

Thanks 8Ball for participating in my post. I never wanted you to "tell" me what to do, but I wanted to see what you would do based on the facts listed. At any rate, I talked with my honey bunny and we worked it out. I addressed my concerns and areas that she could work on more and she respected that. She explained everything and most importantly she assured me that she has absolutely zero feelings for her most recent ex anymore.

As far as the LDR thing, we're going to continue to monitor our new relationship and build on it. We're not going to make any rash decision about that until the time comes. Simply just enjoy one another's company while we can. SO...with that said, I will go with option B listed above for now!

[bdtraders]

Follow your heart, what is it saying? A LDR might work if you and her are very in love, it might even bring you even closer. As far as her still having feelings for her exs , she alwys will. When we date someone we are with them because we care about them, when we break up we might not feel the same about them as we used to, but it is my own feelings and belief that we will still care for that person, even if its as a friend. I still care for my ex very much and always will, that will never change, i would never want to see her hurt, but the feelings have changed, I dont love her like i did before, but i do love her, i love her as a dear friend. Theres a difference. You need to decide for yourself what YOU really want to do. Are you willing to have LDR? Remember theres positives and negatives in all relationships. LDR are hard, but love has no boundaries. Its a hard choice you need to make but at the end of the day you need to sit down with her and you both discuss it together like a couple and decide whats best for both of you, stay together, take a break and go from there, but do it as a couple.

[eightball61]

Thanks 8Ball for participating in my post. I never wanted you to "tell" me what to do, but I wanted to see what you would do based on the facts listed. At any rate, I talked with my honey bunny and we worked it out. I addressed my concerns and areas that she could work on more and she respected that. She explained everything and most importantly she assured me that she has absolutely zero feelings for her most recent ex anymore.

As far as the LDR thing, we're going to continue to monitor our new relationship and build on it. We're not going to make any rash decision about that until the time comes. Simply just enjoy one another's company while we can. SO...with that said, I will go with option B listed above for now!


Its a good thing that you both talked it and decided to try it out. Its doesn't hurt to give something a try. If it fails then you dont have to look back on it and say " well at least I did give it a try". The future stands as untold and we will never know what will happen in the future. When she moves for that year you just keep the love going and don't let anything come in the way. If you find it to hard or stressful then you know its not going to work and you can plan out what you think then but until then enjoy what you have now :p ;) :D

[2BDMD]

You guys have to tell me what you think. OK, let me lay the ground works. So this past week was amazing. My GF and I got along, we spend a lot of time together and the physical bonding definitely didn't lack either. So Saturday came around and we decided to hangout together and go to the clubs downtown.

We went to the first bar/restaurant/club, we're having drinks, laughing, chatting, talking, touching, just having a blast and enjoying each other's company, then the stupid me brought up the topic of where I may end up or choosing to do my surgery residency. Now this has always been a sour topic for her because of the fact that she'll be in Chicago and she wants me to be in Chicago or near her. So I said, I may choose LSU as my top choice because it's an amazing program, that's when the debate started.

After about 30 to 50 minutes of debating, no screaming or yelling or anything, we decided to change the subject and things were good again. So after another 30 minutes of good times, we decided to go to our second club/bar. We danced, laughed, kissed, hugged, at this second bar and everything was perfect like nothing was wrong. So at around 2:30 AM, we decided to call it a night and we left to go home together to cuddle.

Within 5 minutes of getting into the car, I was driving and she was sitting shotgun, she said this to me with a stern face looking straight ahead at the roads, "We're done as soon as we get home!" I was thinking WTF? Where did all this come from? After driving for a little bit, knowing that she was under the influence, I said to her, "I'll give you until the end of the ride home for you to take those words back!" and she replied, "No, I won't take those words back!" So during the whole ride home, we didn't speak another word to one another.

I dropped her off and gave her her car keys (we took her car this time instead of mine), she grabbed the keys out of my hand and ran inside to her apartment. Remind you that it was around 3 AM now. I then walked home mad, pissed, sad and lost on what had just happened? I can't believe she broke us up like that. We had a wonderful night together and I knew my conversation about where I may end up for residency bothered her, but I thought she was OK with it and left it at that.

So not knowing what had happened or if it was something I said or did at the second club, I got home, turn my cell phone ringer to silent, and went go to bed (I was both emotionally drained and drunk by this time). I passed out. Around 5 AM Sunday morning I get up to use the restroom, I noticed I had 8 missed calls and 8 new voice messages. They were all from my GF. From the voice messages, she was crying, asking where I was, and that she didn't want us to break up. On one of the voice message, she actually called me from right outside of my apartment window claiming that she was over at my place knocking on my window because she wanted to see me.

Now all that happened around 3:30 AM and I was already passed out in my room. That was Sunday morning when I heard all the voice messages, and I didn't call her all day Sunday because I wanted to see if she would call me again, but she didn't so we end up not talking at all on Sunday.

Fast forward to Monday, I finally decided that her and I need to talk and I need to know why she broke us up like she did. So after clinic, I got her to give us a chance to talk and I found out exactly why she broke us up like that. After all, it was the "where I'll be for my residency topic conversation" that hunted me. She said that after all that dancing and bar scene died down once we were in the car, she start thinking about it again. Now since she was under the influence, her emotions intensified.

Gets even more interesting. So remember how I mentioned it earlier that once we got back to her place, she grabbed the keys from my hand and "ran" into her apartment? Well, little did I know, she was hoping that I chase after her and ask her what was wrong. Since I left without consoling her and chase after her, she feels that I'm insensitive. And then when she tried to contact me immediately afterwards, I didn't hear the phone ring and I didn't answer her knocking on my window, she thought that I went to some girl's place and avoided her phone calls on purpose.

After talking with her today, I have three strikes against me:

1) I said that I would pick LSU #1 for residency - I am insensitive and selfish
2) I didn't chase after her after we got home to see why she broke us up - again, I'm insensitive
3) I didn't hear her phone rings and her knocking on my window - I was avoiding her

All that together, I hurt her and I'm the worse person here even though she broke us up?! After our 2 hours talk this afternoon, we've decided to stay brokened up. After all, we only have about 6 weeks left together, then I leave on rotation for a month and by the time I get back, she'll be in Chicago already.

We've dated for 2 - 3 months and we've broken up twice already? "To be" or "not to be"? This is tough, because she is so good for me. I'll miss her like crazy, I know this. But I believe it's better for us to stay apart. Now, what do you guys think? My bad or her bad? I can see her perspective, but she shouldn't have said "We're done as soon as we get home" after a great night together, right?

Let me know.

[MissCheivious]

I'm not trying to be insulting here but, men are soooo stupid!! ;) Of course I'm kidding (see the winky smiliy? :p ) but, your ex g/f had a HUGE girl moment. Let me set it up for ya. You guys had a great time, brought up a sticky subject, changed said sticky subject, proceeded to have a good time (in your mind anyway) again, then a breakup out of nowhere. To a man, it seems like that breakup came out of left field but when I was reading your post, I totally saw it coming! LOL Not to say you caused it, you're not to blame for this. Let's just say that no matter what you would've said that night, this still would've probably happened. You can't expect a woman to avoid an issue...EVER. We just can't do it. It's like an elephant in the middle of the room. We must deal with it and make sure it's off the table and we're satifisfied with the outcome or it's an issue FOREVER!
Your ex is doing all she can to get you to show that you care for her. The running away so you'll chase her, the outburst, all that is just attention-grabbing tactics so you'll show some great emotion so she'll know you love her and ultimately choose her over your job. It's not fair but that's what it is. It might not be right but, as a woman, we don't really care about right all the time. We care about getting what we want but, take heed, once we get it, we may not want it anymore. As far as your ex thinking you were with some woman after you just had a big fight with her and you were wasted, well, you know, that's yet another tactic to get you to profess your love and devotion to her. Yeah, it's possible that you could've run to some woman but, she knows you and I think she also knows you wouldn't do that. Basically the whole "fight" wasn't your fault. Not entirely anyway. This is something you two need to decide already and quit letting it fester. Whatever choice you make, you'll both have to live with and in the end, it's your life and your career. She needs to realize that and not put pressure on you. If you think you're best bet is to stay apart, I say stay apart but, you might regret not seeing her for the small amount of time you have left with her. If you guys do get back together for that short amount of time and she pulls these "episodes" again, let her go. She can't and shouldn't guilt trip you into choosing to stay with her. If she loves you (and I think she does), she has to let fate do its' work. I know this is painful for both of you but I think you're doing the right thing. I do think that if you really really miss her, you should call her and really talk things out. Just remember not to put up with anymore outbursts or anything of that nature. This is a big choice for you and right now, not matter how painful it is for her to lose you, she needs to be supportive about your choice. Good luck to you and I hope everything works out for the best. :)

[eightball61]

You have to realize that in relationships people fight and argue. I agree 100% with MissCheiv's post and this girl is using ways to test you in seeing what you are weak in and to see how much you really care. Its not your fault that you didn't hear her banging on the window but not going after your own set of keys will raise eyebrows like it did to her.

You both have agreed to make it work so now its time to make it work. Relationships will not always be fair but you have to learn not to give up or question something so easy.

You both have been dating only for a short amount of time and I see why you are questioning things but only time will tell if things are truelly meant to be. As I mentioned before we can't predict what is going to happen. What we can do is tell you what we think and you can make a decision from there on where YOU see things going.

For now, just monitor your relationship and try working things out rather than questioning it. I would say though if you both do continue to break up over things then its best to split because you dont need those head games. But for now just try it out again and see what happens. "Try to live for now rather than questioning about the future."

[Rich]

I'm not about playing games and I don't do that in my relationships. Early on I would tell the person that I was dating that I don't play games. That if you have a question...ask it. If you have a comment....make it.

Don't play a game to test me or to see how I would react because it's probably not going to be what you'd expect. Life and relationships aren't games. It's called being adults and being mature. There's no need to play games. Kids play games, adults don't and shouldn't.

This bullshit of your GF running into her apt. and then hoping you would run after her is just that....bullshit. Explain to her that you don't and won't do that. That if she has issues, that she is to be adult and trust your relationship and talk to you. Dogs chase, people don't.

It sounds like your GF still has some maturing to do. If she can't accept the fact that you have a mind and will do what's best for you in regards to your career, then she needs to wake up. She's doing what's best for her.

Did she consult you as to where she would do her residency? Did you have a say in it? I doubt it. And ask her why it is that she wants you in the same area for a residency, because when you have free time here she chooses to go out with friends instead of being with you? You're a security blanket to her. She wants you there to be less lonley. But as she gets settled, she'd treat you the same way.

In my opinion you need to do what you need to do for your life. Don't live your life and make decisions based on her life. Especially when your relationship doesn't sound so solid to begin with.

If your GF is going to be pissed about that, then she's going to get pissed at a lot of things. She needs to grow up and know that you're not some puppy dog that is going to obediantly follow her around and obey her rules and games.

IMO, have fun with this girl while you have time together. Bang the shit out of each other while you can and then let the chips fall where they may in regards to your future.

You each are going to have a career that will come first and foremost for the next decade at least. Then after you're set up in your practice you can start laying out your personal life. Two career people have it rough in the early years. There's a lot of work and minimal time together.

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Don't force it. Just let it flow but take care of your life first.

Rich

[2BDMD]

MissCheivious:

How funny that you hit it right on the nose! After talking with my recent "ex", that's exactly what she was doing/feeling/wanting.....

Unbelieveable! I've never dated any girl like that in my life and I told my "ex" that. I told her that I can't read minds! When someone tells me that "we're done when we get home", "I don't want to take those words back", and running away from me, I believe that person does not want me around! I don't play games, I can see her point about wanting me to show more effort, but sh1t, she's the one that caused the problem in the first place.

Well, maybe I caused the problem first by bring up sour topics. I think to myself, only if I hadn't brought that topic up, we still be happy together right now! All those "if"s, "but"s, "would've"s, "could've"s and "should've"s, right?

Nonetheless, girl, you nailed it right on the spot. My ex wanted attention and I missed the cues.


Did she consult you as to where she would do her residency? Did you have a say in it?

In my opinion you need to do what you need to do for your life. Don't live your life and make decisions based on her life. Especially when your relationship doesn't sound so solid to begin with.

IMO, have fun with this girl while you have time together. Bang the shit out of each other while you can....

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Don't force it. Just let it flow but take care of your life first.

Rich
Rich:

Great words of wisdom. To answer you question, my ex and I started officially dating after she decided to go to Chicago. So once we're a couple, we knew that she'll be in Chicago already and her thoughts were, "well, if this is all serious and I do love her, then, I should try my hardest to get near Chicago if not in Chicago."

My career and training is my first and foremost priority at this point of my life. I would consider compromising for a beautiful potential y girl, but although I felt there were promises about my recent ex, unfortunately it's simply not there.

Speaking of banging the crap out of her, man, will I miss that like a son of a gun! Our was amazing! I will miss her y body daily! Don't you guys think good makes you miss your exs?

I am still very attracted to her and I definitely still feel the deep love for her so I know the next 5 weeks or so will be very tough for me. You know what is the hardest? What's hard for me is that I still see her everyday at school/clinic. It's so tough knowing that we're done and she looks so good! That is the worsest! I strongly believe that once we're no longer in the same city, my healing will accelerate.

I talk to her today on the phone over lunch, I asked her if she misses me?
She answered, "why are you talking that way, what's the purpose of us breaking up then?"
I replied, "You're the one who broke us up?!", I again asked, "well, do you miss me?"
She answered, "well, of course!"
I then proceeded to ask, "Is this what you want?" She said, "I think so."
I said, "Really?"
She said, "uh huh."
I said, "I never thought you would say that!"

then we went on and talked about some other crap and ended the phone call pretty cold. Man, my heart was pumping so quick and she just crushed me when she said that this break up is what she wants! Healing will take time, my friends, healing will take time. But, I'll be fine, I just need to survive 5 more weeks!

8Ball: I don't think I'm going to "try it out" again, I'll just "monitor" it. Heck, we only have 5 weeks left, it doesn't really make sense for us to try anymore, ya know. We'l aim to be good friends. Afterall, her and I were friends for a long time before we hooked up!

Thanks y'all.

[eightball61]

Afterall, her and I were friends for a long time before we hooked up!



Keeping the friendship alive is better than not having one at all....


I wish you luck, man ;)

[2BDMD]

My girl and I had a great phone conversation last night for two hours and we talked everything out. We both said "I miss you"s, "I love you"s, and "we hate fighting". She admitted that her actions are immature, but she also claimed that women are entitled to a little of that as MissCheivious had stated earlier.

I simply feel too much for her to let some misunderstanding and/or miscommunication come between us. I told her that event like this past Saturday had made me understand her much more and made us grow as a couple. I also told her that I'm new at this "reading mind" thing, so she has to work with me also. I believe after what I have experienced this past Saturday, I pretty much discovered and know what type of girl she is and what I need to do to make her happier.

I said that if she makes me happy and gives everything that I need from a GF, I would be glad to attend to her needs. We both admit that we both are stubborn and that may just be enough to cause fights. I now understand, she may not mean what she says and she may not mean what she does either.

Note to self:

chase when they run
talk when they don't talk
always leave phone ringer on
pamper her even when she's unreasonable (to a limit)

Well guys, I think we're at it again!! ;)

[eightball61]

My girl and I





I don't get this :confused: You stated two post ago that since you only have 5 months left you were just going to let it be and continue a friendship!!!! Now she is your girl again??? :confused:

Let me ask you this:

"What do you want out of this?"

[Rich]

I would burn that "note to self"!

If she runs, let her go. If she loves you, then she'll come back and won't run anymore.

If you're into being jerked around and playing games, then keep that note. But relationships aren't games that you need a set of rules to. She's your GF and not your kid, so why treat her like a child? Is that what you want?

Pamper because it's what you want to do and not something that you need to do in order to keep your relationship "happy".

Rich

[2BDMD]

"What do you want out of this?"

I want happiness with her! She makes me happy, but only on certain circumstances where I'm just absolutely lost on what's going on. Since we've only dated officially for 3 months, I'm have no problem learn about her or how she is in a relationship. Yes, I want to be with her, only if we both agree to work things out, compromise, and attempt to meet in the middle.

If she runs, let her go. If she loves you, then she'll come back and won't run anymore.

If you're into being jerked around and playing games, then keep that note. But relationships aren't games that you need a set of rules to. She's your GF and not your kid, so why treat her like a child? Is that what you want?

Pamper because it's what you want to do and not something that you need to do in order to keep your relationship "happy".

Rich: I see your point and believe me, I'm more like you, BUT....

if we, guys love a girl, aren't we more incline to work with them, not being "jerked around", but compromise to please them. If my girl tells me that she needs for effort, I will give more effort within reason. I told her that. Pampering is something I want to do and definitely not something that I have to do.

Both her and I voice our needs and we just have to meet in the middle, or at least try. Further, I don't believe that she likes games, it's simply who she is or how she is in a relationship. I learn and grow with these episodes and I will accept or deny actions accordingly.

I believe mens' opinion and how we do things are definitely different from how women think and feel. As soon as I read Miss Cheivious' post, I smiled and thought, man, she hit it right on the spot. Now, it's up to us individually to deal with that type of person or not. For you Rich, you rather not, but for me, I'm willing to give it a shot. My girl is simply too good to give it up if only thing she wanted was for me to pay more attention to her.

I appreciate all advice and opinions and I do take them all into consideration. More later, I'm sure. I'll keep y'all updated.

[eightball61]

Yes, I want to be with her, only if we both agree to work things out, compromise, and attempt to meet in the middle.




24 hours ago you stated that you don't think you will work thing out since you only have 5 months left. My point is you have to make a decision to what it is you want out of this???

If she truelly makes you happy like you say she does then work it out with her. Relationships are a stepping stone and they take time to figure out if the person is truelly meant to be with you. You need to take this process one step at a time and not give up so easy like yesturday. Only time will tell what is really meant for the both of you. Rememeber that friendship with her is key and then you BOTH have to work together from there to what it is that you both really want out of this.

[2BDMD]

24 hours ago you stated that you don't think you will work thing out since you only have 5 months left.

8Ball, my friend, we have 5 WEEKS left, not 5 months left. I wish we had 5 months left! You're right, I've got to stop giving up so easily like this past weekend, but that goes to show that I didn't really understand her needs. Who knew that when she said "when we get home, then we're done" meant she was just mad? I sure didn't. The point is that, now we've communicated, I empathize with her personality and understand her actions/reactions in a relationship.

She makes me smile and I want to continue to smile. I know we've been rocky, but I believe it's in a healthy learning way. BTW, how long have you been in a relationship? From previous posts, aren't you like 22 or 23? Just curious. I want to know about Rich too, how old are you Rich and how long have you and your wife been married? I see your website and how you claim that you can fix relationships without previous training, very curious....

[Rich]

I'm confused.

In your first post you stated that she would rather go out with friends then be home with you...or with you.

So how is that you need to show her more attention when she was the one who didn't want to be with you? That's contradictory on her part, isn't it?

You wanted to be with her, but she did not and now's she's making it out that you don't give her enough time??????

Be careful....they're very, very good.

Enjoy your 5 weeks.

[eightball61]

I'm confused.

In your first post you stated that she would rather go out with friends then be home with you...or with you.

.


This is one of the reasons why I stated I was confused also. :confused: I really think he is as confused as we are :eek:

As I stated you need to figure out what "you" want then what you "both" want. Sorry for the confusion on the five months but I really meant five weeks. You have little time to say what you want to say. If things are meant to work out then things will carry even after school. You mentioned that you been friends with her for a long time so I don''t see the contact going anywhere's after school. What you both need to figure out is whether you want to carry life together or seperate to see whats out there after school.

[icanhelp]

first of all let me talk in her defense, talking to ex's is not bad that shows that if and when you break up you can still be friends. now to your question yes it can work but it probably wont now you need to break things off before you get hurt more than you have to

[2BDMD]

Well, it didn't work out. Only after 4 days that I moved in with her, we gotten into this huge argument and I packed my shit and moved out. I'm in Chicago for a month for rotation and to be with her, we broke up exactly a week ago and I have not talked to her since.

We've dated for 6 months and broke up 7 or 8 times, that's ridiculous! That is not a sign for a good relationship. I was really bummed this past week, but I know this is best. When I'm done with my rotation here and when I get back to FL, then I don't have to worry about LDR crap anymore.

What really suck is that I keep on see and think of places and things we've shared and have planned to do in Chicago. It's really tough when the other person is right there in the same city with you and you don't even see them. I always wonder if she's thinking of us or me like I think of her? Funny that I came here to be with her for one month and it only took us only 4 days to rub each other the wrong way.

I'm fine and am ready to move on. I know this girl and I will not get back together in our near future, perhaps never...who knows. God, I'm going to miss the ! We had amazing ual chemistry! On the bright side, I met a gorgeous blondie last night at my buddy's 30th birthday bash and we're going on a date this week! She is so damn hot! I love it.

[eightball61]

We've dated for 6 months and broke up 7 or 8 times, that's ridiculous!


That is rediculous!!! If I would have known that then my thoughts would have been different when you both went for a LDR.....

You say that you have moved on but please be sure that you are ready. This new girl may be the key to help you on moving on but don't use her as a rebound. You may think that you're all-set but within time your thoughts may change. It's not a bad thing to allow yourself some time off after a breakup.

You know your situation better than I though so this is why I will say "do what you feel is best for you". The future is untold on what will happen between you and your ex. but stay strong with an open mind and thing will turn out fine.

I wish you the best of luck. :)

[2BDMD]

That is rediculous!!! If I would have known that then my thoughts would have been different when you both went for a LDR.....

You say that you have moved on but please be sure that you are ready. This new girl may be the key to help you on moving on but don't use her as a rebound. You may think that you're all-set but within time your thoughts may change. It's not a bad thing to allow yourself some time off after a breakup.

You know your situation better than I though so this is why I will say "do what you feel is best for you". The future is untold on what will happen between you and your ex. but stay strong with an open mind and thing will turn out fine.

I wish you the best of luck. :)

This new girl is just someone cool to hangout, by all means, I'm not trying to get into another relationship! I just want to date and have fun right now.

I know I will have reminant feelings left for my ex, but I know this final break up is so needed and is the right thing to do. I know we both will be better off not being in this relationship. We clashed way too much.

Going on a date with another girl is not rebound, but simply to enjoy new company who can make me smile. I'm definitely not looking for anything right now.

[eightball61]

I'm not trying to get into another relationship! I just want to date and have fun right now.




Fun is what you want & fun is something you should have ;) You seem to be heading in the right direction on moving on so good luck & please keep us updated :)

[2BDMD]

Options:

A) Should I just break this off because this relationship is already showing signs of instability and will be a LDR, if we're meant to be, then maybe we cross paths again

OR

B) Should I stay in it because it has potential and she claims that the LDR will work and we'll try to see one another at least once a month, trust her with all weird things that she does including the exs stuff

I'm leaning more towards option A at this time.

I should've listened to myself back then and picked Option A. This girl was nuts and unstable. was amazing, but not worth the hassel!

[eightball61]

I should've listened to myself back then and picked Option A. This girl was nuts and unstable. was amazing, but not worth the hassel!


Isn't love sooooooo blinding at times?............lol





~8Ball