Girlfriends Mom Hates Me

[a9xs]

Ok Guys, Girls heres the situation My name is Adam Im 18 My girlfriends name is Brittany she 19 and her mom doesnt like me at all they get in fights when i get brought up, to see me she says she is going out with her friends then just comes over to my house i see her everyday she goes to Cosmetology School and Works so if we cant do nothing that night i go see her at work talk to her every night on the phone i talk to her while she is at school and everything....the thing is on April 23rd it will be 2 years and her mom hates me with a passion i guess i should say but wont give her a reason why she dislikes me, her ex boyfriend which is her neighbor she went out with like 4 years ago is who her mom is obsessed with Brittany cant stand him at all she hates him, but her mom tryies to make her go out and do things with him on the weekend and stuff. Ive tried talking to her mom she wont talk to me Ive wrote her letters and mailed them to her and i know she got them because Brittany looked through her room and found them opened but she doesnt say nothing to Brittany about them, Brittany wants to move out but cant because her mom pays for her school which will be done with in November, i really want to marry her is there naything i can do to get her mom to like me i dont want to end the relationship.......

[eightball61]

You've tried everything i would mention to try to get her respect. If nothing has worked then I don't know what to tell you. You are 28 though and she is 19. You both are adults now and able to make your own decisions. It does make it hard in a relationship on not to be liked by another family memeber but her daughters choice is to be with you. What she doesn't realize if she decides to marry you and be together through life that she will have to accept that and if she doesn't then she will lose her daughter.

[a9xs]

yes i have tried everything and her mom is just like its either her way or no way, she is 19 and has to ask to do stuff still the thing is i dont really know her dad either but i have met her dad to and he is really cool he likes me he doesnt have a problem me he likes me and doesnt like the neighbor her dad sticks up for me sometimes and tells the mom that she doesnt know me and stuff but it doesnt do anything the mom just gets pissed at the dad so he doesnt say all that much because then it starts a fight between them but her dad knows she comes over to my house all the time and stuff and he laughs about it he doesnt care like she has a little sister and her little sisters tells her mom everything she ehars so if they are in a car the dad brittany and little sister and brittany n her dad are talkin about me they have a code name they just call me AJ or somethin so the little sister doesnt know what there talkin about her dad is cool tho he doesnt care.....thats y i just dont undetstand while her mom doesnt like me brittany older brother and sister have stuck up for me before i have been to brittanys grandma's which is her moms-mom and she likes me and always tells me to come back over its just the mom.....sorry post is so long i just have aot on my mind to say

[eightball61]

Like I said this women is a hard please....I know its hard and bother some but eventually you both will have to just look past that and just work on a life together. Her mom though will not be apart of it because she chooses not to. Don't blame yourself for it because its not your fault. It will be her fault when she misses out on time with family events or grandchildren in the future.

[a9xs]

yea it just sucks because i didnt do nothin and she is just a to me and a to brittany about me they get in fights and dont talk for like a week then they just start talkin again its so stupid

[eightball61]

Just follow what I said and just work on you both rather than let her get in the way of your relationship.

[a9xs]

ok sounds good, one other thing is brittany and me get in fights because i get mad at yell at her when she aint aloud to do nothin i see her every friday all night then saturday she has school 8-4:30 and doesnt work saturdays n she has to ask to do somethin like i said before and her mom wont let her do nothin says she is never home and stuff blah blah blah so i get pissed off just because i want to see her n spend more time with her because it ridiculous shes almost 20 and has to ask to do stuff......also if it would be easier tot alk you can Im me on AOL Instant Messenger at "a9xs"

[eightball61]

She is 19 and is aloud to do as she pleases. She is considered and adult and able to make her own choices. She needs to do something about that or it will ruin the relationship. Its ok for mommy to be a mom but she can't hold her back...its just the reality of things.

[a9xs]

yea thats what i try to tell her but she says she has to listen to her mom because her mom pays for her school and she lives under her moms roof.....do you not have AIM?

[Rich]

At some point your GF is going to have to tell her mom that she can either, get over the ex BF because that's NEVER going to happen and to let her date who she wants, or that she will lose her daughter because of how she treats her current BF, fiance or husband.

The ball is in your GF's hands.

Rich

[a9xs]

she tells her mom that she aint ever gonna be with him or nothin and her mom still tries to push her to him

[eightball61]

Just wait and see but as we pointed out there will be a time she will just give up telling her mom how it is and she will just lose out on a daughter's future life and memories with you and grand kids. So my suggestion is just drop it and just see the happiness you have in front of you...your girlfriend ;)

[a9xs]

ok thanks alot for the advice guys

[eightball61]

Don't leave us for good :mad: Stick around and give us updates anytime. ;)



:D

[a9xs]

im not leaving for good i just dont plan on any updates for awhile :rolleyes:

[eightball61]

....................... ;) will look out for that :D

[a9xs]

ok sounds good ill post if anything else maor happens to...lol

[Spartan803]

My girlfriend's mom doesn't know about me yet. I don't really feel like explaining why she wouldn't like me if she found out about me. My plan is, when she does find out about me, she'll just have to deal with it. The rest of your gf's family likes you so it's not like the whole world is against you. So I think you should get the message across to Brittany's mom that you're going to be there for a while and she's going to have to live with it.

[eightball61]

MMy plan is, when she does find out about me, she'll just have to deal with it. .


Then whats the big deal on her not meeting you :confused:

[Spartan803]

Maybe you don't remember me eightball. You helped me out with something in another topic. My gf and I are only 15. Therefore, her parents finding out about me and not liking me when I'm 15=her parents keep her on lockdown till she's 18. So I got to keep a lid on it for a while. Her parents should like me. I'm a pretty nice guy and I love their daughter, but that doesn't matter. No matter what I do they will not like me. At least not right away.

[eightball61]

Thats right....Well hang in thier buddy because once she is 18 then you both will have a life to share together and her parents will not have much say on her decisions. It is very hard at your age but just hang in there and and keep your head up high because she is the reason why you are with her ;)

[Spartan803]

:) Yea I might as well explain why her parents wouldn't like me. She is Macedonian. It's not like she's an immigrant or anything. She speaks perfect english and doesn't have an accent or anything. The thing is, her family doesn't believe in mixed marriages or any of that stuff. Which means Italian(Me) + Macedonian(her) = no go with the parents. You'd understand this more if you've seen the movie My Big Fat Greek Wedding. So basically her parents would be quite dissapointed in her if she ended up marrying me.


P.S. Sorry if I shouldn't be talking about my stuff in your topic a9xs. :rolleyes:

[eightball61]

Its ok Sparten :) As I see it in my opinion its ok to date outside of race. Some people don't believe in it but that is thier thoughts. We are all human underneath that skin and as long as you have that special bond of love then dont let anything come in the way.

[Spartan803]

That's how I feel, and that's how my girlfriend feels. It's just her parents that don't believe in dating outside of race. But like I said, they're just going to have to deal with it.

[eightball61]

Dealing with it is all you can ask for and with that positive thinking you both should be fine. I do wish you both a lot of luck into the future. ;)

[Spartan803]

Thanks. :)

[eightball61]

Your Welcome ;)