my ex bf is stalking me!

[stew4rt]

hi i need some help!

my ex bf and i broke up months ago but he will not let go of it. we had a very bad breakup and we both made mistakes but i filed a restraining order on him. he then put a restraining order on me too! i am very happy to be done with the relationship because it was very bad, but he will not leave me alone! he stalks me online, goes to website i usually visit and won't stop posting to me. he constantly sends me messages on my accounts on other websites and he demands that i speak to him, but this is violating the restraining order. i refuse to talk to him because he is crazy and manipulative and selfish. i don't want to go to the cops about the restraining order right now for complicated reasons i cant really talk about right now.

im trying to put my life back in order and part of that means no more steve! but he won't get the picture and he keeps saying he's gonna kill himself which is bullshit because he's said that dozens of times and he never done it!

ughhh!! what would you do in my position?

[smackie9]

Delete all your accounts and hide for awhile.

[eightball61]

Does the restraining order have a no contact clause? If so, he is breaking the law by contacting you even online. You should gather as much evidence as you can and after settled hide out like smackie said.

[Rich]

If you don't want to go to the cops, then there's skeletons in your closet that you don't want coming out. Why did you bother getting a restraining order if you weren't going to use it??? That was pretty stupid.

Go into your accounts and either block his IP address, or create new accounts with different names. On Facebook and other social sites you can either accept someone as a friend, or not. Block him and don't accept a new friend without 100% positive id that it's not him.

Oh....and you're right, he won't kill himself. But keep any and all emails and texts as evidence against this guy.