What does this statement mean?

[JLJ1967]

My ex and I broke up two months ago. He handled a bad situation poorly with me and I called him on it….I never heard from him after that. Last week I sent a text wishing him a happy turkey day and we ended up texting for an hour. In a text he made the following comment about himself "I am not a person to be loved by anyone". I can ask but he will dodge the question. The comment just struck me odd.....anyone have any insight?



This is what happened. I was ually assaulted by a family member. He was upset about what happened, he lives far away. I know that he was upset & angry& I do understand that. We talked on my way home, he made some stupid comments & said he would call me the next day. This was at 8:30 pm the night of the assault. I did not hear from him until the next day at 6 pm. He said he didn't call me all day because he was at work and didnt' want his co workers to over hear him & ask questions, so he would wait till his car ride home.

He works dept manager in a store. He could have went outside, on a break or something to at least check on the "love of his life", but he didn't.

We were together almost 1 1/2 years he proposed. When he did what I felt like was blowing me off, I told him. He said he didn't want to hurt me or say something I might misconstrue & would talk to me later. He never did & when I tried, to call or write, no response.

Not till a week ago in the text

[smackie9]

If this has anything to do with the assault, he's feeling like he wasn't able to protect you and is feeling quiet helpless. When it comes to such emotional events, some men tend to shy away from dealing with such a serious issue. He couldn't handle it and now he feels ashamed. If he runs when there is trouble, then it's best to know now rather than down the road when he takes off and leaves you with kids and a mortgage.

[JLJ1967]

I had sent him a text telling him I hope he had a good turkey da and was glad he was ok (a generalized satement). He replied with "I'm hanging in there". I then told him to stay safe. He replied with " u 2 with your new love". He misinterpeted a post on a forum, I have no new love. I asked him if he had anyone new and THAT'S when he said about himself "I am not a person to be loved by anyone".

Still think the same thing about him being ashamed?

[JLJ1967]

What you say is very interesting.


After not hearing from him for a while, I send a not to him on Turkey day...
This is where his comment fits in....

I sent him a text on turkey day telling him I hope he had a good turkey day. Then I told him I was glad he was ok (a genrealized statement). He replied with "I'm hanging in there". I told him I know and that he is strong....and then to stay safe.

He replied with "U 2 with your new luv". He mentions that early into the text/convo. He is a self admitted jealous guy. He says he read my post (about finding love ) I don't have a new love. He misinterpreted something I posted on a forum we both belong to as meaning I had found love elsewhere, when it was within me the whole time. I cleared that up and told him there was no new love and asked him if there was a new love for him. THAT'S when he replied with "I am not a person to be loved by anyone".
Through the rest of it I tell him I worr abut him, he tells me to take care of myself and not worry about him. He says he knows I am ok by all my comments and posts on the forum. He has some things I would like him to get rid of and asked repeatedly for my own piece of mind. He didnt' do that nor did he answer my questions from before. So I asked him what happened, why he didnt' do what I asked.

He said he loves the pictures and they are sentimental. He never responded to my about them because he didn't want to lie to me about destroying them which was what I wanted, when he really hadn't. Plus he is sentimental and loves the phoots.


Still think he is ashamed??????

[JLJ1967]

I would say the comment and the assault are related. This is the context of the comment.

The assault was on Sept. 23rd. He handled the situation badly and made some really stupid comments. When we talked on Sept. 24th I told him he dropped the ball. He said he didn’t want to say anything more to hurt me or have me misconstrue what he said and he then said he would talk to me later. That was the last time I heard his voice.

On thanksgiving night I sent him a text message saying I hope you had a good turkey day and am glad you are ok (a generalized ok). He replied back via text with “I’m hanging in there”. I told him to stay safe. He replied with “U 2 with your new luv”. I don’t have a new love. He said he had read my posts and comments on a forum we are both on, but he took he misinterpreted what it meant. He thought I had a new love. I don’t. What it meant was I found love, within myself. I clarified that with him. He can be a jealous guy.

So I asked him if he had someone new. THAT’S when he said about himself “I am not a person to be loved by anyone”.


Still think it’s about him being ashamed.?

[smackie9]

Obviously you both have communication problems. He just assumes, you just assume.....He rather get his information from the posts instead of actually talking to you face to face. Weak. Dude needs to grow some frickin balls!