a little help please

[jfh805]

So I met this girl last summer...we talked on and off for a few weeks and when I felt like things were going good and had reached the right point I asked her out, and she gave me her number. The problem was that I never got to see her again and she didn't return my calls. I only called twice because I didn't want to be pushy and because I got rather busy with other things at the time. I moved on and went away to school in the fall, but I have been thinking a lot about her lately for some reason and even having dreams about her so I guess she is on my mind. My question is, should I give her a call and see what happens? I liked her a lot and I figure there has to be a reason why she's on my mind so much. Thanks, and sorry for this being so lengthy but its driving me nuts. :p

[eightball61]

Your a funny character :p

My suggestion is "yes" give her a call or two and see what happens. It doesn't hurt to call and give it a chance. You are probably thinking about her a lot because of the dreams. Dreams can trigger off wierd emotions and feelings that you haven't had in a long time and this may be the case here.

Its very hard for me to explain, but I really do know how you feel when you have a dream about someone and then you have feelings for this person that you didn't have the day before.

She is a distant memory though because the summer was a few months back but it still wont hurt to call. Just try to touch base with her and see what she is up to. After a few tries and if you don't here back from her then just give it all up and you will know from the first attempt to know that things were just never meant to be. She can be just considered as a summer fling :) but you won't know until you try so call her and keep us updated after you place those calls. My suggestion is call once then wait a good week and call again. Try calling on a Sunday or something because that may be the best time to catch her at home....goodluck :D

[jfh805]

Thanks for the advice...I think I'll give her a call as soon as I muster up the courage, which is a whole separate issue :rolleyes:

[Pamelina]

I think I would persist in trying to reach her until you finally did and see how she sounds. Hard to know what's what with her until you two have talked. It will sort of put the ball in her court to respond and take you up on beginning some kind of relationship. I sure wish you the best of luck, jfh!

[eightball61]

I muster up the courage, which is a whole separate issue :rolleyes:


No, its actually still part of the same issue...Just think of it this way; If you called her before then you can do it again..... If you have a fear that you may choke then get a list of questions to ask her or potential conversations and keep them by your side if you do choke up you can refer back to get a conversation going...Let us know how it goes. :D

[Rich]

IMO...I'd call one more time, maybe two, to see "what's up". But I wouldn't persist past that.

Sometimes people do things just to be nice or not make someone feel bad. Maybe her giving you her number was just such an instance.

If she hasn't or doesn't call you back, then take the hint that she doesn't want to see you anymore and move on.

By all means take the chance though and call.

Rich