sarahkate
12-10-2009, 02:58 AM
Hmm... I guess I'll start from the beginning.
I am 21 and my boyfriend is 22. I met my current boyfriend a few years back at a college we both attended. We became friends but then I transfered to a different school. About a year later he also transfered. We didn't talk for a long time until this past summer. We began having long conversations over the phone and ended up meeting up. We reconnected and clicked in a way that I can't even describe. The problem is that he lives in NJ and I live in CT... but I am in NH the majority of the time for school. We had about four and a half months of a fairy tale-like relationship until we both realized it started getting harder. We both started thinking about what would happen next and how long we'd be able to keep the relationship going. We agreed that it's to soon to make any decisions about moving forward as far as living together. This past weekend he admitted that there are times when he feels like at some point he wont want to be in a relationship. Is this normal for guys? I'm not sure how to handle the situation. Am I overreacting or am I setting myself up to be let down? What is frustrating is that if we weren't in a long distance relationship I doubt we'd be having these conversations. I wouldn't feel pressured to think about the future at all, but in this situation I feel like I want to have some idea of what to look forward to. Let me know what you think!
I am 21 and my boyfriend is 22. I met my current boyfriend a few years back at a college we both attended. We became friends but then I transfered to a different school. About a year later he also transfered. We didn't talk for a long time until this past summer. We began having long conversations over the phone and ended up meeting up. We reconnected and clicked in a way that I can't even describe. The problem is that he lives in NJ and I live in CT... but I am in NH the majority of the time for school. We had about four and a half months of a fairy tale-like relationship until we both realized it started getting harder. We both started thinking about what would happen next and how long we'd be able to keep the relationship going. We agreed that it's to soon to make any decisions about moving forward as far as living together. This past weekend he admitted that there are times when he feels like at some point he wont want to be in a relationship. Is this normal for guys? I'm not sure how to handle the situation. Am I overreacting or am I setting myself up to be let down? What is frustrating is that if we weren't in a long distance relationship I doubt we'd be having these conversations. I wouldn't feel pressured to think about the future at all, but in this situation I feel like I want to have some idea of what to look forward to. Let me know what you think!