Alcohol and relationships- Opinions?

[LTD8759]

I'm curious here about how you all feel about alcohol's involvement or lack there of in a relationship. I'm not expecting to hear anything going a particular way, but am more curious on multiple opinions/reasoning.

I have had my fair share of relationships where alcohol has been a part of ie. Going to bars/parties together. I personally found that drinking, especially while trying to establish a serious relationship, only built walls and created tension whenever we tried to fit it in. I have an interesting issue too when drinking, and that's PTSD relapses. A good amount of alcohol in me, while awake makes me uneasy, and once i'm asleep, it really takes off enough to completely scare whoever is in bed with me senseless. For that reason, i really don't drink a whole lot, and as a young 20yr old guy, it puts me in an odd spot a lot as far as relationships go. At times i just feel like going out and drinking is a bit of a cop-out for a good time with a girlfriend. That's just my own view on it though. Anyone else?

[lostjack]

I have a similar issue with my girlfriend as well.

i dont mind going out for a drink or a club now and then but its just not my thing to drink all the time, on the other hand she likes to go out most weekends to get drunk with her friends. i feel like this is taking a strain on our relationship as she doesnt have many other interests other than partying and most of her friends are the same so it comes to the weekend and we are both doing different things. we have had a few arguments about this as well:rolleyes:

so to answer your question yes i do think alcohol can have a big effect on a relationship, i think it just depends on the person and their lifestyle and if they are willing to compramise.

Regards

[adoodle]

These days clubbing can cause serious and irreversible damage to ones life, in most states getting a few DWI's can prevent you from working or driving which will really effect your income and ability to be independent and can even lead you to prison.
These days, not worth it to go out and club, socialize with drinking.
It also makes you have BAD JUDGEMENT when you drink and you could go to bed with someone who looks like a modeal and ewake up next to a witch.
I dont drink much, maybe one drink a month and usually I drink it at home, I could never be a part of someones life who drank daily or to excess because I dont have those values. People who tend to drink a lot and use alchol alot is much like drugs and it will only attract others who abuse those thing to you.
I can go out and not drink and have a good time. matter of fact, I prefer it, no worries about wrecking my car because I have had too much to drink, no getting tickets
that could be very expensive or even cost me my job or income.
who the heck drinks anymore? maybe just the young and inexperienced ?

I can live quite happily with NO alcohol in my life.

[Diablo]

I quit drinking in '95. I find that people who disagree about alcohol shouldn't date. Two drunks can get along with each other; as well as two teetotalers, but teetotalers shouldn't date party animals.

[LTD8759]

I find that people who disagree about alcohol shouldn't date.

Couldn't agree with you more on that one.