need some advice

[seavidae]

Hi!
I like a girl.
The problem is that she might have a boyfriend (I saw her with someone in a cafe some weeks ago). How can I find out if she has a boyfriend or not? I know someone (a friend of her) who can tell me but I don't want anyone to know about this. And I read that is not ok to ask the girl if she has a boyfriend or not.
I would like to ask her out, but I don't know if she is single. help! Please give me some ideas.
Thanks.

[eightball61]

but I don't want anyone to know about this.


If you like her enough to date her then you need to make it known. You can ask her friend but I have found often times friends can either make a situation good or bad. I think it be in your best interest just to go up to her and start talking with her more. Your goal should be to learn more about her and edge your way in.

She could just have a guy friend and many girls have those. You can't rule out yet that she may be taken. You need to find out if your encounter is correct that she has a boyfriend. Once you find out then you can simply just pull back. It doesn't hurt to find out. You just need to move in and be friend like to her and approach her little by little to get your answers. If she was committed to a boyfriend then you would know very soon after talking to her a few times. My suggestion is go for it and see what happens. You having nothing to lose when you are just trying to seek information.

[Rich]

Is the girl married? I take it that the answer is no.

If that's the case, then ask her out whether she has a BF or not. All is fair in love and war.

If she does have a BF and is totally happy, then she'll decline your overture. Then back off.

But give it a shot and ask her out.

IMO

Rich

[BigGurlBigWorld]

if your talking about what you should do, and what your thinking..what do u have to lose really?..if u ask her and she rejects u, well she was never yours anyways. Yea and maybe who knows you could gain something from this...its likely that you gain if you do something, then not doing..that might be good or bad but what is bad?

I think its best to ask, then that way you know your answer, instead of guessing your brain out, and making it seem harder then it is.
If you have feelings for her, it may be hard to accept some things, but would you rather know that now? and get on with your life?..well up to you...me i would jus ask so i can move on to better things that i might be missing out on...

[seavidae]

She has a boyfriend...

Thread closed.

[eightball61]

It happens man....Don't pound yourself to much over this. You need to pick your head up and go back out on the hunt for the next potential girl you may have interest in.

[seavidae]

It happens man....Don't pound yourself to much over this. You need to pick your head up and go back out on the hunt for the next potential girl you may have interest in.

Thank you for advice. I'll do that. There must a lonely girl for me somewhere :)

[eightball61]

Thank you for advice. I'll do that. There must a lonely girl for me somewhere :)


There a billions out there to choose from so go out there and take you lucky pick :D


Remember, You win some and you lose some but the one you win is the one for you. ;)

[Rich]

She has a boyfriend. We know that. You stated that.

Did you ask her out and she shot you down with that reason? Or are you not going to approach her because she has a boyfriend?

[seavidae]

She has a boyfriend. We know that. You stated that.

Did you ask her out and she shot you down with that reason? Or are you not going to approach her because she has a boyfriend?

When I met her she was waiting him. Life is funny, isn't it? I guess we'll be just friends... and who knows what the future will reserve :)

[eightball61]

and who knows what the future will reserve :)


I love your attitude :D :p