MyImmortal
12-20-2009, 03:17 AM
ok this is a little long winded, but bare with me.
I was a member of a Native American site. I got involved with this man there. He is Native American and everything started off ok.
I later found out he was "married' not legally married, but lived with this woman for almost 30 years. by that time i was already in love with him and thought he was with me as well.
I know I should have broken it off with him then, but I was already in too deep. And I thought he was my soul mate.
Anyway, I told him I didn't mind if he was with her and me. I am open minded like that and it didn't bother me. I knew if we kept it that way, we would have to do it in secret.
He said that in time he could get her to accept us. Then he called me his second wife. He is the kind of guy that could easily be a polygamist. And that doesn't bother me. He came up with the idea that he would tell her that he dated me years ago and he left me for her. She contacted me by email and we called each other and actually became friends.
Well, I found out he was doing the same thing with two other women while he was with me. Now, I was not bothered about his now "wife" but I didn't like the idea of him getting involved with other women. I figured his "wife" and I are enough.
Well, something happened between he and I and he dumped me.
Now, I the whole time I was being friends with his "wife" I felt bad for deceiving her.
I am feeling I should confess to her everything. She is not the kind of person that can handle another woman in the picture. She's not like me. I think she needs to know what he husband is doing. She caught him fooling around on her one time and threw him out, then later took him back in. He has slept around on her the whole time they have been together.
My question is this: Should I tell her? I am willing to take responsibility for what I did wrong. She is a really nice person and doesn't deserve this.
I was a member of a Native American site. I got involved with this man there. He is Native American and everything started off ok.
I later found out he was "married' not legally married, but lived with this woman for almost 30 years. by that time i was already in love with him and thought he was with me as well.
I know I should have broken it off with him then, but I was already in too deep. And I thought he was my soul mate.
Anyway, I told him I didn't mind if he was with her and me. I am open minded like that and it didn't bother me. I knew if we kept it that way, we would have to do it in secret.
He said that in time he could get her to accept us. Then he called me his second wife. He is the kind of guy that could easily be a polygamist. And that doesn't bother me. He came up with the idea that he would tell her that he dated me years ago and he left me for her. She contacted me by email and we called each other and actually became friends.
Well, I found out he was doing the same thing with two other women while he was with me. Now, I was not bothered about his now "wife" but I didn't like the idea of him getting involved with other women. I figured his "wife" and I are enough.
Well, something happened between he and I and he dumped me.
Now, I the whole time I was being friends with his "wife" I felt bad for deceiving her.
I am feeling I should confess to her everything. She is not the kind of person that can handle another woman in the picture. She's not like me. I think she needs to know what he husband is doing. She caught him fooling around on her one time and threw him out, then later took him back in. He has slept around on her the whole time they have been together.
My question is this: Should I tell her? I am willing to take responsibility for what I did wrong. She is a really nice person and doesn't deserve this.