New here and in need of Adiv

[YahYah4]

Hi everyone,
can someone please advise me on what I should do... Well Im seperated from my Husband. we lived together for a year even though we was not together because of finance..So he is out the house now and we will be starting divorce proceeding... So I have been dating off and on. met a man just happen to be coming out of target one thing let to another and we now talk an go out.. Now he has two kids one is 2 and the other is 11..bad part is he still is living with girlfriend. He says theyre not together and who am I to say different because my husband and I was living together and nothing was going on.. So me and this guy have been intimate A LOT!!! I like him im starting to have feelings for him and I really feel like a DUMMY for letting things go this far.. I have been to his house when the girlfriend is not there.. we see each other twice a week. I have met his children. he is not working right now and says when he finds work he will move out! I dont want to stop seein him heck im still married but seperated what should I do? can this go any further? do you Think he is being honest from what you heard so far? my girlfriend says wait it out... my sister says I should need it because his break up seems to be Fresh and it wont work .. I need Advice!!!:confused:

[eightball61]

Before you go further you should end the divorce, get time to yourself, the make sure he is not with the girlfriend.

[YahYah4]

thanks for your reply... Im soo already drawn in this relationship but I understand where your coming from... and one of my male friends said that if he dont give you a xmas gift dump him because that means he's nt looking at the relationship like you are...

[Diablo]

He could reconcile with his gf even if they aren't screwing each other now. Also, your husband can use the relationship against you in court. You should back off a little, for legal and practical reasons. As long as your new bf is in his ex's house, they could reconcile at any time. I'm not saying to end it, but you should proceed cautiously.

[2fine69]

We are to use our past, to build on a solid future. Did you say you and your husband werent together because of finance? Didnt you say Mr. Target has no job? Did you say he lives with her, and will move out WHEN he finds a job? Sounds like another relationship bound to Finance to me! Also, With his kis having 9 years between them, It would be my guess that they have different moms. And, neither of them belong to the lady hes now living with. Step back, Look at where he is now, see if thats the road that makes sense to start walking on. Where it begins, for the most part, will be the best it ever gets.

[YahYah4]

thanks that makes good sense...