Older man..

[sxemama]

Hi, I'm 19 years old.. and I have been going out on dates with this 42 year old man. He looks like he's in his 20's though. Anyway I told him I just wanted to be friends, and he's fine with that. He hasn't made a move or anything. He's very nice and all, and I like him. But I just can't get past the age factor. I'm uncomfortable with going any further because of that.
What do you think? Is 42 too old for a 19 year old?

[Diablo]

Age doesn't matter, but stages do. You two could be friends with benefits, but that would be tempting fate a good bit and a deep relationship between you two would probably be a disaster.

[eightball61]

I'm uncomfortable with going any further because of that.



Age factor is onlly a big deal when you turn it into one. I personally don't see any problem with age differences but you have to be accepting to some differences because he has been through more in life than you have.

If you are uncomfortable with the age factor then just be a friend and nothing more. When being in a relationship you should be 100% comfortable and if you are not then you don't belong in it.

I respect that he is fine just being a friend with you and he is not pushing anything. It sound like you have a real nice guy here. Often times I question if these men are after a young piece of a** just to get some. I suggest just continue the friendship and allow it to grow into more. You need to allow the age difference not to bother you if you want to be with him. Just spend more time together and allow things to grown and see what works out from there.

Goodluck and keep us posted :)

[Rich]

It's a big deal depending on what you're looking for.

If you're looking for a man to marry, then it is a big deal and probably won't work.

If you just want to date, have and have fun, then it's not a big deal. I just wouldn't bring him around to your family. That way you won't have to deal with that hassle, the looks and the questions.

IMO, at 19 years of age you shouldn't be looking for anyone to marry just yet. At least not for another 5 - 7 years. So have fun and enjoy life.

Date this guy and learn from it and him.

Just my opinion.

Rich
www.awesomerelationships.com

[nichol]

im in a similar position...im 22 and the guy im talkin to is 35. when we met i was 20 and he was like 32 going on 33. i coulda swore he was around 28. when i think bout it sometimes i feel weird about the age thing but when im with him i feel comfortable with him.
i dont really have much advice cuz i dont know if im doing the right thing, but the only part that makes me nervous is ever having to introduce him to my family...and some of my friends.

[seavidae]

Yes, 42 is too old for 19!

[icanhelp]

yes its a 23 year differance but if you think of it this way... when your 52 hell be 75 so it depends on how you look at it :)

[Pamelina]

I have to say, I think the first 3 answers replies here were just wonderful. I don't think it could be said better.

My husband was 13 years older than me--not quite as much of an age diff, but I wouldn't have listened to anyone tell me he was too old. It's all up to you. Love between 2 people is just that--strictly between them to decide if it's a go for anything serious or not.

Good luck, sxemama!