Is he advoiding me???

[sweetchick]

Thanks for your guys advice

[2BDMD]

Even if the was bad, I don't think you scared him off. Girl, why you calling at 6 AM and repetitively? That's crazy! Unless you two are a couple and it's your thing to call one another that early, but if you're just dating?

What you should do is wait and see if he calls tonight? If he wants to be with you, then he'll call.

[2BDMD]

Today was his bday and I tryed to call him around 6 but his phone was off, i left a msg and he never called or came over. I tryed to call his cell again but it was still off.

That's strange? Your post was posted at 6:20 AM today? So when you said "today was his bday and I tryed to call him around 6..." I thought you called him early! Either way, if we want to be with you, then we'll call you. If we don't want to be with you, but we care about you, then we'll call you to let you know that we don't want to be with you. So one way or the other, see if he calls!

[eightball61]

Stop wasting your time at calling him. Something may have came up but I am sure he could have spared 5 minutes to call you to keep you posted. Don't down yourself on thinking the was bad. Many times people often end up as a one night stand and the victem is confused about it afterlike you are.

The way I see things is that you got played. The only way he will prove me wrong is if he calls you. You have allready called and left messages. Wait another day or two and call one more time. If he doesn't call then you know your answer and its time to move on. Don't hang onto something thats not there. A lot of people get used and played on...so it not your fault.

To protect yourself from these one night stands my suggestion is in the future only give yourself up to the person you really want to be with and have meaningful with.

[Rich]

Give it some time and see if he calls. I'm sure that he will. Then find out about the disconnect on the phone calls. Don't be an interrorgator though.

What I'd like to know is why you felt that having with him was stupid? It happened and you both wanted it. So what's the big deal? It's nothing to be sorry for or apologetic over.

Hopefully you both had a good time and you took precautions. Sure beats watching TV. :-)

Always remember to think before you do. But once you do, don't apologize or feel stupid over it. It was a choice and you learn from it either way, good or bad.

Rich

[eightball61]

apparrnetly he was sick last night so i dunno


So if he didn't call last night then why was his phone off all day while it was his birthday? He could telling te trueth though. What you should do is monitor things slowly. If you both decide to hang out again ten do so but take things slower. Don't give yourself up so easily to him. Have him prove that he is not with you just for the . If he isn't then he will stick around.

We really don't know what his intentions are or were at the time. All you can do know is be careful and take thing slower and see what happens in the fututre.....have you both talked about hanging out together again?

[eightball61]

You not crazy........You are normal. ;) Just keep your plan at taking it slow to see what happens from there.

Also, you mentioned that this guy works for your brother-in-law and your brother0in-law told you that this guy called out. So if you heard he was sick through your brother-in-law then how do you know this guy is coming over tonight?.......What I am trying to ask here is if you've talked to this guy also & if you did what did he say?

[icanhelp]

well... i think he is avoiding you, but i dont have a clue why. if its beause of the then he is just being immature. now on the other hand mabey your intimidating him?

[eightball61]

You really thought something was wrong because you thought he was ignoring you. Many people in your postion would have thought the same thing. I am glad to hear that he is coming over and it looks like he does want more out of things. Take the relationship step-by-step to see what happens. Please keep us posted on updates :D Goodluck

[Rich]

He said that he was sorry for not coming over, but what was the reason why he didn't come over?

[icanhelp]

even if he said he was sorry doesnt me he is a man will tell you anything in order to get you to not argue or fight. also you need to find out why he didnt come over and see what he says. until then

[icanhelp]

he might be telling the truth he might be lieng, just go with your gut on this one!

[eightball61]

I agree with icanhelp on this one and you do need to go with your gut here. You need to test to see what is right for you. If you make the wrong decision then don't pound yourself up because we learn life from making mistakes...

[icanhelp]

learn life from making mistakes...
this might be one of those times :)

[eightball61]

this might be one of those times :)
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Thats the only way we learn and learn to get stronger for life.

[eightball61]

We ain't saying he is lieing...You only had one episode with him. Just go on dating and seeing him like you normally would but just keep and eye on anything wierd like this again..

[eightball61]

I dunno I hope hes tellin the truth i really like him


Just take it slow like you said you will and learn to trust. Trust will be the only thing that will get you through this. You have a man that is telling something so now you need to take his words and trust him. Tryto think more of the postive side to things rather than the negative. The negative is just keeping you back from moving foward. You allready stated you will be taking it slower so try that and see what happens.

Please give us updates ;)