alwaysunloved
01-07-2010, 03:00 PM
My ex and i have had many issues but decided to breakup partly because he wants to go on a road trip for about a week with a girl who hes been friends with for a long time. we broke up almost a month ago now and have been trying to work it out.
Back story- he helped her take her car back to her base, a 36hr drive from here, last summer. he thought hed fallen in love with her, admitted it, but she rejected it.
then she was deployed and now returned. well he promised her hed help her again this year before we started dating.
i told him that if he went, we would have major issues. Why? well, other than the fact he was once into her and attracted, even IF he didnt still like her/want her and nothing would happen, he refused to spend the night at my place (during a 4 mth relationship) we were saying we love each other, weve known each other for almost a year. he wouldnt have with me either. however, hes going to go for a week, with this girl, spending the night in a hotel but in separate beds, all that alone time.
This is inappropriate? everyone tells him it is, and even the girl said she'd understand if he couldnt do it because of me. but then we broke up because of it and have been talking about working it out, but if he goes, should that be a dealbreaker?
he knows how i feel about it and being broken up shouldnt affect it. also, i offered to come, and he declined- even though she offered to let me come when him and i had been dating. he just said now it would be too awkward.
Even if he doesnt go- is this fixable? he hasn't been the nicest to me, acting like a jerk really. doesnt want the same things- marriage, , etc. in his life.
What should I do? do you think he might still have a thing for her? he always speaks highly of her, though he claims he told her about his feelings so he could move on. A week alone, how likely do you think it is that his feelings would be resparked? should i be concerned?
i talked to a psychic who thinks he will definitely go and that something will happen between them. idk if i should believe it, but she said that his heart has been with her and thats part of the reason he never fully would give himself to me =/
Back story- he helped her take her car back to her base, a 36hr drive from here, last summer. he thought hed fallen in love with her, admitted it, but she rejected it.
then she was deployed and now returned. well he promised her hed help her again this year before we started dating.
i told him that if he went, we would have major issues. Why? well, other than the fact he was once into her and attracted, even IF he didnt still like her/want her and nothing would happen, he refused to spend the night at my place (during a 4 mth relationship) we were saying we love each other, weve known each other for almost a year. he wouldnt have with me either. however, hes going to go for a week, with this girl, spending the night in a hotel but in separate beds, all that alone time.
This is inappropriate? everyone tells him it is, and even the girl said she'd understand if he couldnt do it because of me. but then we broke up because of it and have been talking about working it out, but if he goes, should that be a dealbreaker?
he knows how i feel about it and being broken up shouldnt affect it. also, i offered to come, and he declined- even though she offered to let me come when him and i had been dating. he just said now it would be too awkward.
Even if he doesnt go- is this fixable? he hasn't been the nicest to me, acting like a jerk really. doesnt want the same things- marriage, , etc. in his life.
What should I do? do you think he might still have a thing for her? he always speaks highly of her, though he claims he told her about his feelings so he could move on. A week alone, how likely do you think it is that his feelings would be resparked? should i be concerned?
i talked to a psychic who thinks he will definitely go and that something will happen between them. idk if i should believe it, but she said that his heart has been with her and thats part of the reason he never fully would give himself to me =/