WhatAMess
01-09-2010, 03:20 PM
So Thursday night I told him that I wanted to end our relationship. We have had lots of fights, one night even pouring alcohol on me. My older daughter hated him and was to the point of saying that if he and I stayed together she'd either hurt him or herself... so enough was enough.
I told him it was over. I told him that we got along well in many areas but in others we were too different. Our fights were not good. He'd always threatened when I'd go to my friends that he'd kill himself and it always brought me back.
So I left Thursday around 7pm and went to my girlfriends house. He texted me over and over and over and around 10pm the texts stopped. I thought he'd drunk himself into unconsciousness so I went to bed, got up, went to work yesterday. I tried emailing him and calling him with no response. I had my girlfriend call him to see if he was just ignoring me. When I didn't hear back from her. I called her and she said she had texted me and I didn't get it.
It was then that I realized my memory was full. I cleared out all my texts and restarted my phone. This was around 2pm yesterday. I saw he had continued to text me and the last three I received from him were: "thank you for leaving me your antidepressants" "say goodbye to Meagan (my younger daughter) for me" and "make sure Brodie (our dog) goes to a loving home for me"
At that point I called the cops and had them go to my house. They found him unconscious but alive. The paramedics took him to the hospital. I went to see him and after he was stable they let me go in. He had come in with a body temp of 93 and some other signs of major distress. They had half a dozen iv's in him, a catheter, he was in a serious ER room with plugs and machines everywhere. It was the worst thing I've seen in my life. Eventually he started coming around but was very incoherent. I was able to understand him a little bit and he wanted me to free his arms... hew anted to yank the ivs and his catheter out.
He would get agitated and his pulse would spike up to like 170 at one point when I wouldn't untie him. Eventually the ER staff said I should go home that he'd be admitted to ICU and I could call and check on him.
The ICU doc told me to call today before coming in. He warned that he may become aggressive and that he was a definite suicide attempt. So they will get him stable, then move him to a regular hospital room, then when they believe he's fully rational, a psych eval. THen they will put him in the psych ward, he has no choice and must go.
I don't know what to do. I do know that I simply can't live with someone who is suicidal and I'm damn sure not taking him back or ever having him come in contact with my children.
Do I just pack his things and take them to the hospital and never go see him? Should I see him and try to help him recover? What do I do? My brother, mother and friend all say I should get a restraining order and change the locks on the door... but he is on the lease.
I will call the leasing office and see what they say... I'm torn with grief and guilt and rage. I'm so angry. Furious.
I just don't know what I do now....
I told him it was over. I told him that we got along well in many areas but in others we were too different. Our fights were not good. He'd always threatened when I'd go to my friends that he'd kill himself and it always brought me back.
So I left Thursday around 7pm and went to my girlfriends house. He texted me over and over and over and around 10pm the texts stopped. I thought he'd drunk himself into unconsciousness so I went to bed, got up, went to work yesterday. I tried emailing him and calling him with no response. I had my girlfriend call him to see if he was just ignoring me. When I didn't hear back from her. I called her and she said she had texted me and I didn't get it.
It was then that I realized my memory was full. I cleared out all my texts and restarted my phone. This was around 2pm yesterday. I saw he had continued to text me and the last three I received from him were: "thank you for leaving me your antidepressants" "say goodbye to Meagan (my younger daughter) for me" and "make sure Brodie (our dog) goes to a loving home for me"
At that point I called the cops and had them go to my house. They found him unconscious but alive. The paramedics took him to the hospital. I went to see him and after he was stable they let me go in. He had come in with a body temp of 93 and some other signs of major distress. They had half a dozen iv's in him, a catheter, he was in a serious ER room with plugs and machines everywhere. It was the worst thing I've seen in my life. Eventually he started coming around but was very incoherent. I was able to understand him a little bit and he wanted me to free his arms... hew anted to yank the ivs and his catheter out.
He would get agitated and his pulse would spike up to like 170 at one point when I wouldn't untie him. Eventually the ER staff said I should go home that he'd be admitted to ICU and I could call and check on him.
The ICU doc told me to call today before coming in. He warned that he may become aggressive and that he was a definite suicide attempt. So they will get him stable, then move him to a regular hospital room, then when they believe he's fully rational, a psych eval. THen they will put him in the psych ward, he has no choice and must go.
I don't know what to do. I do know that I simply can't live with someone who is suicidal and I'm damn sure not taking him back or ever having him come in contact with my children.
Do I just pack his things and take them to the hospital and never go see him? Should I see him and try to help him recover? What do I do? My brother, mother and friend all say I should get a restraining order and change the locks on the door... but he is on the lease.
I will call the leasing office and see what they say... I'm torn with grief and guilt and rage. I'm so angry. Furious.
I just don't know what I do now....