about my girlfriend

[icanhelp]

me and my girlfriend have bean seeing each other for about 2 monthsand everything was great until a month ago she cheeted on me, we worked things out and then thingsweregreat for about 1 and 1/2 weeks ago it started to seem as if she is ignoring me. what should do to provent this?coments?

[eightball61]

It takes to people to have success in a relationship. You can't prevent anything from happening. The only way to change something or stop something is if you both work together. She broke everything in the rules of a relationship when she cheated on you. I will say you do have a lot of guts to continue things but its only going to be the matter of time when the relationship does fail.

I say this because you are seeing now that things are just not the same. If she truelly was sorry then she would be trying everything in her heart to save the relationship. If she is being distance then that just proves my theory that most relationship fail after one person cheats....This is all because nothing is ever the same after one cheats in a relationship.

[icanhelp]

ok... im seing her today and i think im going to confront her about it see what she sais and go frome there
thanks for the help

[eightball61]

No Prob ;) You have to realize though you have to give yourself credit for at least trying to make it work again.

[2BDMD]

What's the update, Clay? Did you confront her? Lets hear the details.

[icanhelp]

well i did confront her, and she said she didnt relize she was ignoreing me and for the rest of the night things were back to normalll.
but on that note... i have a new problem, i was talking to my friends about her and one of them said my girlfriend told them that she was about to go out with another guy next week. now this may seem out of the blue for somebody but let me tell you this, we see each other a lot because were in the drumline together so were always at comp, practice and this week we leave for worlds. and after that we wont see each other nearly as much. now i know thats going to be hard but i care about her in a way ive never cared about a women before and i cant bare to loose her.
what should i do :confused:

[eightball61]

Its all about trust and what your heart thinks. she allready cheated on yu once and that her fault for allowing the relationship to fail. Relationships are all about trust and if you can't trust her then its best you just leave. You will continue to question many things if you do stay in this relationship. Its either trust or don't trust and leave.

[icanhelp]

i do trust her, but even though i still confrunted her and she said it was a joke

[eightball61]

Theres things that are ok to joke about and there are things not to joke about. What she calls a joke is not a joke(especially since she cheated). She really needs to grow up because as far as I see she is just not ready for ant type of relationship. Save yourself from hurt and just run away from it all.....run...run..run I say.

[icanhelp]

even if it is true i dont think i could bring myself to leave her!!!!

[eightball61]

SO you are saying if she was sleeping around and cheating on you then you still wouldn't leave?

[icanhelp]

now that depends on who and how many times
plus ... we havent had and i dont think she is planning on having yet...(she is still a virgin)

[eightball61]

now that depends on who and how many times



If she was ceating on you multiple times wouldn't you question how much she actually loves, respects, ad care for you? I have always said that one time would be enough and I would be gone but I guess I cant predfict that unless I was in the situation myself. I will say if it was more then once then she wouldn't stand a chance with me again because that would just show the lack of respect and would tell me she doesn't love me enough.

[sagg22]

I am not like many others and do not think that just because someone cheats that the relationship is doomed. I have seen amazing relationships survive that and more and last for a long time, still lasting. So I wouldn't advise basing everything just on that fact.
On the other hand if someone does cheat they need to put in a lot of effort to make things better and keep things good. She needs to be aware if she is ignoring you or making you feel ignored and needs to want to make things better.
I believe that the instincts of the heart are proven true about 99% of the time. What you have made it sound like is that you are suspicious and are not really trusting her whether or not you say you do. The fact that you are worrying so much probably does have some basis to it and truth behind it. I wouldn't be naive and stand there waiting to get hurt. I also wouldn't run. I would talk to her everytime you feel something and acknowledge your feelings and doubts for what they are.

[icanhelp]

I am not l... I would talk to her everytime you feel something and acknowledge your feelings and doubts for what they are.
dont you meen she isnt
probably but its hard do tell someone how you feel. :)