strange situation...what do you think?

[sagg22]

I have never been one to be in typical relationships, but I have found myself in one that not even I expected nor know what to think about.
I've found myself involved with another man and woman. The two of them are in a relationship and have been for awhile. We met, began hanging out, one thing led to another and before I knew it I was woven into the picture.
Things have been great so far, very balanced. I know that because the two of them are together I will always be on the outside a bit, but I am fine with that and it doesn't bother me. Except, can this go anywhere?
I am falling for both of them and falling fast. Am I just setting myself up for major pain or can threesomes like this work?

[eightball61]

It can be fun but once you allow your heart to settle in for more then that where it can hurt. They are together now and will most likely be together in the end. You won't be able to sneak in the relationship and be happily ever after with them. I could be wrong though and they may accept you in though. If you truelly have deep feelings and want to spend more time with them then you need to come clean about these feelings and tell them. All three of you need to have a good talk on what this means to them and also means to you. If you have no future and this is all for fun then just leave now before you get hurt more.

[sagg22]

In the last few days I have gotten to have multiple talks with them. We have all been very honest about how we feel. All of us admit to caring very strongly for one another. That this situation is very intense and fun right now. None of us know exactley where it is going. But we don't want it to end, we know that much.
They have been in a threesome before that wasn't all that pretty and made things very difficult for them. So they have some fears but have also learned from past mistakes. That one lasted three years. They tell me that it is so much different this time and that I am nothing like the girl before me. That things are working so much better. So I am assuming that we may be in for the long haul with this. That makes me so happy.
But then there are questions like...
Could we potentially move in together?
What do I tell my family and friends? (I have quite a conservative family)
Will I be able to continue to care for them both without falling for one more than the other?
Am I still doomed to be hurt in the end? Or is there the possibility of something like this lasting?

[Diablo]

The dynamics of a three way are trickier than with a conventional relationship; however, they can last if all three are emotionally mature. If even one of them isn't, it won't last. As for what to tell your family, is there a need for them to know? As for your friends, anyone who would break off the friendship over this is not a real friend, so don't worry about what they think. The cost of living is high and about to get higher, so you can say that the three of you are living together for financial reasons. These days that's perfectly reasonable and people do choose to live together for that reason. So just say that. There's no reason why people have to know the full story.

[eightball61]

Could we potentially move in together?
What do I tell my family and friends? (I have quite a conservative family)
Will I be able to continue to care for them both without falling for one more than the other?
Am I still doomed to be hurt in the end? Or is there the possibility of something like this lasting?


All these questions can only be answered between all three of you. The relationship goes where you all allow it to go.... All we can do is answer with predictions and I really hate to do that. The future is untold and things happen for a reason but you also guide your life in the direction where you allow it to go.

Its all fun what you are doing now but in a few years things may be different. The fun will stop sooner or latter. It will stop with happiness or hate. You are starting to questions things now and that should tell you that things are very uncertain. If you don't want to end this in hurt or hate then get out now.