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[Spartan803]

I have a girlfriend that I love very much. First of all I have to say this is a long distance relationship. We started going out and then she moved. I'm practically married to her but I don't know what to think right now. I use to not like the long distance because I missed her so much. Now it's not that I miss her. We see each other on an average of about once a month. She is my first real girlfriend and I'm a little scared of her being my only one for the rest of my life. I'm not sure if I want to be with her for the rest of my life without experiencing other girls first. Being far away from her is something I can handle. It's being near other girls that I can't. I'm not a cheater. I would never do something like that because it would break my girlfriend's heart. But when I'm with other girls I wish I was single again so I could flirt with them and cuddle with them but I can't. It's not like I have no interest in my girlfriend anymore. It's just that I want to be with her and I want to be close to her and it's killing me being so far away. Any advice would be helpful.

Thanks,
:confused:

[2BDMD]

As a guy, it's normal to want that closeness and wanting to be physical with your GF. I am the same way, I need that physical presence of my significant other. I will soon in a LDR and personally I don't know how it will turn out. It will be very tough.

You have to ask yourself what you want more. These urges to be with other girls are normal, but be sure not to act them out. How long will your LDR last? Any plans to move back together in the same town soon? How long have you two dated before she left? All these factors/questions contributes to the overall picture of what you should do.

[eightball61]

How old are you both and why did she have to leave?

If you are feeling this way then maybe you should end it. LDR can be very hard to tollerate. You both been going out for quite sometime now but only see eachother once a month. If she was closer I doubt you qould be feling this way because you would have her body warmth next to you.

You feel you want to be single again because when you are around other girls you have a whole new feeling of that warmth of a female next to you. You need to have someone close to you in order to get the needy feeling that you have.

There is nothing wrong in thinking this way. If you really feel you need someone closer and you don't want to be tied down yet then be fair to her and end the relationship. Its not fair to her that you hold onto her while your feelings jog back and forth.

LDR are just not for some people because hey need to have that security and comfort next to them. Some people can handle have a relationship through a phone and the net. I prefer to have physical contact and you seem the same. The point is you are not ready t settle yet and you want to date more girls. My suggestion is make it fair to your girlfriend and let her go instead of holding on while you feel this way.

[Spartan803]

I don't really know what to think. We're both only 15 but I feel like we were made for each other. I feel like going out with someone else would just be a waste of time. We're so in love with each other we've already discussed our plans when we're older. We've discussed marriage, children, even the name of our first child. I've made her happier than she's ever been and I feel like she needs me just as much as I need her. She once suggested the same thoughts I'm sharing with you today but at the time I thought that was crazy talk and I convinced her out of it.

[eightball61]

Its hard having a committed relationship at your age that is long distance because you have to rely on parents for meeting arrangments. Your feelings are very natural and its hard to let go to a person you love and care for so much.

What you need to do though is listen to your heart and be fair to her. If you heart is telling you to move on then you need to be honest to her instead of hoolding things back. Sure its not doing any harm but you are putting her and your life on hold.

Life is to short to be put on hold and you should take risk and try to experience what you think is right. If you hold back then you miss out on a lot of things. You are 15 and just starting into the dating market. I doubt this will be your only girlfriend. She is your first love and you will never forget her so that doesn't mean you need to hold on because she is the first......

[Spartan803]

Alright thanks for the help man.

[eightball61]

Please keep us posted :)

[Spartan803]

Well, I've decided to stay with my girlfriend. I figured out the pros and cons and she is more important to me than any other girl I could waste my time with. If I gave up my girlfriend, I would be giving up a lot more than I thought. This girl loves me and I love her. We have so much in common and I can see having a future with her for the rest of my life. Thanks for the helping me when I was more confused than ever.

[eightball61]

I wish you both the best ;) & thanks for the update..

[icanhelp]

your only fifteen... you shouldnt think that you will end up with the first one

[Diablo]

Some people actually do wind up with their first love. Lucky s. Most people don't, but if neither of you want out, then stay with it. Have to warn you, things may stay the same until after college. 15 year olds have no real control of their lives and it's going to be a long road; however, other people have gone down it before and made it to the end. Good luck.

[Spartan803]

Thanks for the support. Except you icanhelp, I say **** you with a smile on my face :) . All I know is that my older sister started going out with her husband when she was 14. They had gotten married after 10 years of going out. So I have reason to believe it will work out. I think you're just lashing out because you lost your first love thinking she was the one. I'm sorry. :(

[eightball61]

Spartan, keep you head up high and work with the flow. Just be patient & have trust and you both may be able to make it work out. Goodluck and keep us posted anytime. ;)