Shall we call for love?

[seavidae]

Hi!
I'm just wondering... I'm still waiting and nothing. Since last summer I'm still single. The girls I've met had boyfriends or they weren't what I was expecting. Love will come to the ones who call for it? Or love will come to the ones who don't expect it? I call for love but no response... is this a mistake? I wish to share this summer with someone I love.

[eightball61]

Love can come at anytime. Love happens a lot of times when you don't expect it. Don't wait for love to come to you. Keep looking and never give up. If you give up hope for love then you will lose out on a great thing. Love only happens when you get the right match. Right now you just haven't found your match. I am 23 and it took me 21 years of my life to find my love. I wasn't a looker myself and I lost out on a few opportunities and I hate to see you go through the same thing.

[Rich]

IMO....I would join one of those dating services and not one of the fly by night ones either.

Join one that does all of that profiling and psychological matching. Think of all the women you can "check out" without them even knowing it. Plus they're checking you out as well and you know that if you get a hit, that right off they're attracted to you. No guessing.

I know it cost money, but think of all the money that you would spend in bars or on dates "just getting to know someone".

With dating services you're looking at folks who are looking for the same thing that you are and not looking to play games. What's the difference of looking at someone from across the bar and falling in love or doing it when the picture pops up on the computer screen. The feeling will hit you all the same.

If I was single I would go that route. You can also do most of it right from your computer if your prowling time is limited.

I'd love to hear from people on this forum that have tried dating services and what they thought of them.

Rich


PS- If that doesn't work then put a wedding band on your finger and go out to a bar. More women then you could shake a stick at.


It always amazed me how women complain about men cheating when tons of women approach men knowing that they're married.

I guess it goes for both es that if you're just looking for with no attachments, then hook up with someone who is married.

[seavidae]

I would never use those services.... I have to find love in my real life.

[eightball61]

I would never use those services.... I have to find love in my real life.


Then don't give up...Keep search and taking any opportunity that comes.

[Rich]

Limited mind....limited options.

The ladies on the dating sites are real.

All I'm saying is that you have a greater chance of catching a fish, many fish, many different types of fish if you're fishing in an ocean as opposed to a pond.

To each is own.

Rich

[seavidae]

Limited mind....limited options.

The ladies on the dating sites are real.

All I'm saying is that you have a greater chance of catching a fish, many fish, many different types of fish if you're fishing in an ocean as opposed to a pond.

To each is own.

Rich

Thanks man, but I'm not mind limited. BTW, there are a lot of sharks in the ocean...

[Rich]

seavidae ---I would never use those services.... I have to find love in my real life.


Never say never. It's being closed minded.

What makes you think that using one of those services isn't real life? (limited view of reality)

[Diablo]

Get thee to a brothel and forget about love. That was a bit facetious, but you can't find love when you're looking for it, so forget about it and go about living your life. Love will probably tap you on the shoulder after a while.

[Pamelina]

I believe in visualizing and going after what you would like to happen. All things come to those who wait does not apply to everything in life, I've found. And it can be time wasted.

Looking for love can be folly and you can really get burned that way. But making yourself friendly and attractive (personality-wise, mostly)to the opposite is a start! I guess I believe in giving yourself every good opportunity there is to find what you really want.

[Howard]

Love comes to those who wait and patience is definitely a virtue.For myself,I waited 3 1/2 years for the right girl to come back into my circle and I'm hoping this will the right girl to make me happy in any way shape or form for the next couple of years or so.She's smart,intelligent and beautiful in my eyes.I don't want to let her go and will not allow it.I waited too long for this moment and it's a special one.maybe,one day she'll be my wife,you never know.I'll have to take it day by day. :)

[TiredOfTheGames]

IMO....I would join one of those dating services and not one of the fly by night ones either.

Join one that does all of that profiling and psychological matching. Think of all the women you can "check out" without them even knowing it. Plus they're checking you out as well and you know that if you get a hit, that right off they're attracted to you. No guessing.

I know it cost money, but think of all the money that you would spend in bars or on dates "just getting to know someone".

With dating services you're looking at folks who are looking for the same thing that you are and not looking to play games. What's the difference of looking at someone from across the bar and falling in love or doing it when the picture pops up on the computer screen. The feeling will hit you all the same.

If I was single I would go that route. You can also do most of it right from your computer if your prowling time is limited.

I'd love to hear from people on this forum that have tried dating services and what they thought of them.

Rich


PS- If that doesn't work then put a wedding band on your finger and go out to a bar. More women then you could shake a stick at.


It always amazed me how women complain about men cheating when tons of women approach men knowing that they're married.

I guess it goes for both es that if you're just looking for with no attachments, then hook up with someone who is married.


i just wanted to say that i have been using an online dating service for the past year or so... at first it was to complete a bet set by a best friend, but after a while, i started looking into it seriously... i wasnt having any luck with guys around my area... im an attractive girl, and i dont have a problem meeting guys at all, but my problem is meeting quality guys who arent just out for ... im 21 years old and im looking for someone who could be a possible husband... not a one night stand... i did that stuff 2 years ago... im over that... yes i agree that its a very big ocean out there on the net, and there are some nasty sharks out there, but if you are careful, you can find that pearl in the oyster that you have always been looking for... its possible... you just have to be very careful and sort through your options, and talk to them first for a few weeks getting to know them before you decide to meet... that way you will know from conversations whether or not you are wasting your time... and if you ever decide to change your mind about online dating sites, (there are real ppl on there... take me for example... ) i can give you the addresses to the ones that i have subscribed to...

[shelby644644]

My best friend met her partner through a dating site. They've been together for 9 months now and are very happy.

This is a good way to find out someone's interests and if you have anything in common before you even meet.

I'd recommend it.

And Rich is right about the pond and the ocean - there may be someone out there, on one of those dating sites, that you would never have met in the 'real' world. The internet is now part of the 'real' world and opens up a whole host of new opportunities and hopes.

And those sites aren't all full of sad people who can't get a partner in the 'real' world. They are generally guys and gals that, due to circumstances such as work, kids etc, can't always get into the right situations to meet new people.

You will often find that people who open themselves up to dating sites are honestly looking for love, and are honest - why else would they pay good money to join???

Of course, some are just after but you tend to find that out quite soon I think and you don't have to go through the crap of being mauled over in a bar by some guy only interested in getting you into bed!

[Howard]

The last relationship I had was almost 5 years and I dated this Down Syndrome girl named Anna who was much older than me(about 5 years older)She broke up with me on October 19th,2001.Maybe she wanted the engagement ring or it's possible that she got tired of me.I don't know for sure. :(