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WaIt4yOu125
02-01-2010, 07:49 AM
I never used to belive in soulmates, or love at first site until i met my ex almost 3 years ago. I can still remember every little detail about the first time i saw him and our first date..it was like a fairytale. It was love at first site for both of us. I was only 17 and i had never been in love but as soon as i saw him i knew he was my soulmate..

I first met my ex David through a friend. She gave him my phone number and we talked every night for hours for about 3 months before we ever met. I have never been so nervous as i was that night waiting for him to pick me up for our first date. We went to a local restaraunt thats open all night. We talked about everything that night..we were sitting in the restaraunt for probably 4 hours holding hands, and it sounds crazy but falling in love. As we were about to leave a waitress remarked,"If you dont stop looking at eachother like that someones going to think youre in love." We both knew it was true.

From that day on we were inseperable. Everything was perfect, like a dream. We wrote eachother poems and love letters all the time, he knew everything i was thinking before i could say it. I never had to worry about anything when we were together, he treated me like his queen. We never argued and we told eachother everything. We talked about getting married and having kids someday. Everything ive ever wanted an anyone, he posessed.

Then, after about a year he started working longer hours. My mom got sick and wasnt able to work anymore, so i took on a full time job on top of being in high school full time. We never had time for eachother anymore and it killed me. We barely even got the time to talk on the phone anymore.

While i was in school i became close with a guy i had known since i was little..at first it was just a close friendship. Then david,my boyfriend, suggested we take a break. That broke my heart. I felt like he didnt want to see me anymore. So we broke up and i started daating the guy i knew from school. Looking back now...that was the biggest mistake of my life. Eventually after about a month i realized it wasnt working with this other guy so i left him.

I tried calling David and working things out with him. but he felt like i betrayed him by dating someone else so soon...for almost a months a called him every night begging and crying to him. He would cry too but he didnt want to risk getting hurt again by me.

Ever since then..almost 2 years ago, iv been heartbroken. Iv met alot of nice guys but whatever i do all i can think about is him. I dream of him almost every night. Now about a week ago He sent me an email saying how he misses what we had and wishes things would have been different. He says he would have talked to me sooner but he was still bitter.

Im confused now because all i want is to be back with him. but he has a girlfriend. He tells me she cant ever compare to me, but at the same time he still cares for her and doesnt know if he wants to leave her. I want to convince him to leave her for me but i dont know how. Iv been praying ever night just to have the chance to talk to him, and now that i am..i dont know what to say. How do i make him realize im the one for him?

eightball61
02-02-2010, 11:07 PM
Sorry to say but after two yrs he is not going to come back. Its tough for you to let go because you don't have the right closer by the mistake you made. Thats how we learn though. You need to learn to move on...you need to give yourself a little push but you first need to accept that you will never had what you had.

marksinclair
02-02-2010, 11:18 PM
I think that's a pretty dang good sign that he contacted you out of the blue like that... I wouldn't give up hope till he gets married or files a restraining order. Just don't overdo it at this point - don't scare him off. I think he must feel as strongly about you as you do him. I see this working out :o

JulietLovesYou
03-01-2010, 05:15 PM
Well he obviously has been thinking of you since he randomly emailed you. The only problem here is he has a girlfriend. I say that you tell him your honest feelings. Tell him you love him and you do want him back. But NO BEGGING OR CRYING. Just let him know how you feel and tell him that your not going to wait around on him. Take this slow and gradually don't pressure him or scare him off and try to re-kindle the realtionship. Do so after he's left his girlfriend though. As for now keep it friendly and no pressure. And if his girlfriend really can't compare to you then he'll leave her and come back to you. Oh and if they break up then I'd set a date up . :)

ccleme20
03-24-2010, 05:58 AM
Im going through almost the exact same thing with my ex-girlfriend except something like this happened just a month ago not 2 years haha. From a guys view it's extremely hard to take someone back who has betrayed you. My ex slept with someone while we took a break..I still love her alot and would love to take her back but I simply cant. It's also a trust issue. Im sure he feels like he can't trust you at all and never will. Trust is something that takes a loooong time to build but can only take a few seconds to destroy. So I dont know if he would ever take you back but coming from a guy in the same spot it's just hard to. He may want to but his heart is just telling him that this could happen again and he would have to go through the pain of betryal again.