is thier a moment, has it passed?

[ozBOY]

OK, here it is in short:

I catch the bus to university each day and i started seeing this girl a couple of times each week, she hops on at the uni like me and gets off in my area, and since then ive started seeing her around the place- on campus and even at the local shopping centre.

The thing is i havent spoken to her, she knows i exist but i just havent got the confidence to speak to her even though from what ive said above i have a heap of things to start a conversation based on. i cant tell 100% if shes interested in me but thier have been some signs of interest, but in the last two weeks not as frequent or obvious, i think she may have lost interest and think perhaps i dont like her, considering i first saw her like 5 weeks ago and still havent talked to her.

After about 3 weeks i started thinking that if i did start talking to her she might think im some sort of weirdo cos i took so long to talk to her, and she may be able to tell that was because i liked her and lacked confidence, becasue if i only wanted to be friends (and not become anything more) than there would of been no reason why i wouldnt of talked to her after seeing her regularly in week 1.

Anyway i think i may have missed my chance, but i guess after my mid semester break in 2 weeks i might aswell have a go anyway, what have i got to loose, nothing much, and if she is interested then i guess ive got a lot to gain.

any thoughts or advice, much appreciated- cheers in advance. ;)

[Diablo]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You should start a conversation with her about whatever. Don't ask her out or for her number the first conversation. That's too soon and she'll decline. Since you run into her regularly, you can take your time. If you blow it, you blow it, but if you continue to say nothing to her, then nothing is what will come of it.

[eightball61]

i might aswell have a go anyway, what have i got to loose, nothing much, and if she is interested then i guess ive got a lot to gain.



This is just like your last post except you have an actual person you have interest in....... :D

Its never to late to pull off a move. Sure there may be times when someone actually had batter chances than at a different time but it still never hurts to make a move.

You have a few weeks to make this move and I suggest you do it rather soon. The smallest things can get a convo. going and the next time you see her then give her a smile along with a "hello". If she starts talking back then you have your time to hit t off. You can ask things like her name, major, here she from, ect....

This is all in your hands buddy and its time to make a move. Rejection does suck as I said in your other post but after you get over it then you feel much better that you made the approach to ask rather than never asking and losing out.

I pointed out your qoute above because this is the type of confidence an attitude you need. Just stick with it and see what happens. I can't offer you a happiness that she may go on a date but I can say you achieve a victory on making the move to ask her out. ;)

Please keep us posted on the outcome.

[Rich]

This is where you have to learn a life lesson and that is that procrastination gets you nowhere.

Like Diablo said and what I have said many times on this forum and that is, nothing ventured, nothing gained.

You'll never know the answer to a question, if you don't ask it.

Get this into your head. We are all the same! No one person is better than another. We all have our strong points, faults and insecurities. Guaranteed that girl has hers as well. She's not this pure, idealic goddess that's not to be approached by a mere mortal. She's just a girl probably looking for love as well.

Right now you're idolizing this girl and making her unapproachable in your head. Why? Lack of confidence?

Know this. You only get confidence from doing and from experience. You can either choose to live your life like you currently are, or make a change and approach people. The more you do it, the more confident you'll get. And the more dates you'll get as well.

Don't make someone else out to be better than you. View everyone as an equal and you'll be less intimidated about approaching them.

It's time to either fish or to continue cutting bait. What are you going to do?

Rich

[SALly]

Just say something to her OZ.
You never know, she could be shy and wishing everyday that she had the nerve to say something to you...
Or she could be wondered who this freak is that keeps looking at her....
But either way- you need to say something to find out or you will always wonder....