lambodiablo205
02-09-2010, 09:18 AM
Hello,
This is the first time vising this site, and i have a ton of questions on what it is i should be doing to build a relation with a girl.
I am 19 years old, never been in a relationship, and I am starting to feel the emptiness of not having someone in my life. I have had crushes on various girls though high school and college. There was one girl i started liking freshman year in high school. We were friends for 4/5 years, off and on (mostly because we didn't see each other at school, and we didn't know each other very well). About one semester into college, i finally told her how i felt about her, and she didn't feel the same way. After that, i decided to focus on school and work more, because being around her and talking to her hurt me too much.
About 6 months ago, i started getting to know one of my co-workers. She is really cool and beautiful, and the more i got to know her, the more i began to think she was the one for me. She likes a lot of the same things i like, and she has even told me she likes me more than anyone else in the store (don't lie, nice, try to keep peace with everyone, go out of my way to help people). There are about 400 associates employed in the store. We have started doing a lot of things together (working out together, texting a lot, watching her sporting events). The only problem is that she has a boyfriend currently, and they have been together for 2 years. She has been having problems with the relationship between her and her BF, and even tells me about it and asks me questions on whose right during an argument and so on.
My dilemma is, i really want to ask her out. Obviously not when she has a BF, but just sitting back and seeing how everything plays out. If they do break up, should i ask her out a week or 2 later? Wait longer? Not even ask her at all, and just leave it as a friendship? I am mostly afraid of loosing her as a friend, because i've had this happen to me twice before. Also, what are the signs of knowing if she likes me as more than just a friend? I've seen some signs already, but i can't tell because she already has a boyfriend.
Thanks!
This is the first time vising this site, and i have a ton of questions on what it is i should be doing to build a relation with a girl.
I am 19 years old, never been in a relationship, and I am starting to feel the emptiness of not having someone in my life. I have had crushes on various girls though high school and college. There was one girl i started liking freshman year in high school. We were friends for 4/5 years, off and on (mostly because we didn't see each other at school, and we didn't know each other very well). About one semester into college, i finally told her how i felt about her, and she didn't feel the same way. After that, i decided to focus on school and work more, because being around her and talking to her hurt me too much.
About 6 months ago, i started getting to know one of my co-workers. She is really cool and beautiful, and the more i got to know her, the more i began to think she was the one for me. She likes a lot of the same things i like, and she has even told me she likes me more than anyone else in the store (don't lie, nice, try to keep peace with everyone, go out of my way to help people). There are about 400 associates employed in the store. We have started doing a lot of things together (working out together, texting a lot, watching her sporting events). The only problem is that she has a boyfriend currently, and they have been together for 2 years. She has been having problems with the relationship between her and her BF, and even tells me about it and asks me questions on whose right during an argument and so on.
My dilemma is, i really want to ask her out. Obviously not when she has a BF, but just sitting back and seeing how everything plays out. If they do break up, should i ask her out a week or 2 later? Wait longer? Not even ask her at all, and just leave it as a friendship? I am mostly afraid of loosing her as a friend, because i've had this happen to me twice before. Also, what are the signs of knowing if she likes me as more than just a friend? I've seen some signs already, but i can't tell because she already has a boyfriend.
Thanks!