Do u ever tell SOMEDAY guy he is SOMETIME GUY?

[penelope]

In jr/high school dated a guy for a bit over a yr. I had 2 move, so we broke it off. I always beleived someday we'd finish out what we started. When I could drive, he moved on, and eventually I did to, but alway would watch the papers, just to see if he had married, etc...

FORWARD about 12 years later, after living back east, moved back to town, got my nerve up, called him. All was ok, nice to talk to, but could clearly see he was involved in pursuing someone else, so I exited.

FORWARD about another 15yrs. enter FACEBOOK. I invited him on my wall, but never said anything. Person I was in a bad relationship with, deleted my Facebook acct.

FORWARD a little more than a year, re-established an acct w/facebook. Re-ask 4 him 2 get on friends list he agreed. After 10 yr's w/MR WRONG, not much going on my world, bad ankle, two yr's cripple, car accident messed me up bad physically, bad mean boyfriend, not doing much for what's left. Lack of good job not helping, concidering I feel like the cash cow in this situation.

I emailed guy, he replied, a few weeks went by sent a message, had a great conversation on message board, was nice. Really enjoyed it, but didn't want to get back 2 soon and seem to stalkey. Thought about a show I'd seen "Cougar Town," learned about the term, SOMEDAY GUY... I like it. So this is what I posted, or the short version;

There are really only 3 relationships. the 1st one (Usually jr/high school), the 2nd, the one that got away, & 3rd. the most special of all, SOMEDAY GUY...

Next evening, tonight, got in, and seen he had posted a comment, he commented and ask if he was in cluded in that statement. I replied yes, because when I mentioned 1st one, I gave an example (Say the one you didn't make it to prom with :) I knew he knew it was him. Then I was afraid I said to much, because when I commented on it a little more, he said that maybe it was him, so i didn't want to offend him, so I deleted it off the board. Then I posted a TY to him 4 having that special place in my life of being 1st. I worried after about a half an hour of not getting a reply that I may have said 2 much. So that's when I entered the TY.

Then in message area, I ask him where he wanted to be placed.

That been an hour or so ago, so I haven't had the heart to go back and check, plus, he does have to get up and go to work.

So its wait, n c :)

[smackie9]

If I had an ex boy friend from Jr high, that messeges me after 25 years to hint that I'm the one.......I would think that they are psycho.

[PrincessB]

Smackie's right. Maybe stay off Facebook for a bit if possible and take a day or two to re-enter the real world. It may be scary at first but the fantasy world you dipped into is dangerous territory.

[Diablo]

People do hook up after long separations. On one of those reunion sites, 12 women have searched my name and they're all from before 1980. I used my step-dad's name prior to then. In 1980, I started using my real name again. Chances are out of twelve women from the distant past, one or two may be a few bricks shy of a load, but it should be fun to go back to that site and see who's trying to find me. Another aspect of the poster's situation is that sometimes people hook up with people from the past and find they're nothing like they were. If you persue this, be prepared for him to have changed in a lot of ways. It's not etched in stone that he'll be drastically different, but he could be.